Clueless to Couple

Thankfully, an ex boyfriend saw how much of a mess I was in my dating life and gave Jaimy, The Date Doctor my phone number at a networking event. I had no idea who she was or what her job entailed when she called me. After agreeing to meet with her and discuss my past dating rituals, I knew Jaimy was introduced to me for a reason. She has the best advice at the best times, but I didn't always follow it as I should. She watched me make mistake after mistake with different guys, over and over. She never judged me and just coached me through it. Finally, I decided to trust Jaimy and begin following her rules. She has tried to guide me for months now and she was able to see that I was ready to do this right. Soon after she texted me saying she met THE guy...

Dating Dads

Here are some quick tips for Dating Dads that may surprise you. Dating Dads usually come with an ex. Remember they are your ex and it is not your responsibility to drop everything to help out. The sooner you get your ex to depend on someone else the sooner you will have your freedom to live your life. When a new date asks you about your divorce never blame the ex. It is really not an appropriate discussion for a new date. Keep your answer simple, honest and change the subject. Don't use this as an opportunity to blast your ex. This will just make you look bitter and angry. Something that is very unsexy when you are trying to connect with a new lady in your life. Don't over apologize to your new partner. Sometimes single dads have some guilt issues. When you screw up you need to own it. And you...

Tips For Moms (Single, Dating and Married)

Singles Moms-I love that you adore your kids, they are your top priority and you are a terrific mother. But please ladies this doesn't need to be the first thing you say in your match profiles. It basically screams that you are one of those moms who feels guilty whenever you aren't doing something for your kids. This sound a little weak and not very sexy. Dating Moms-Don't let your kids decide who you date. If your 8 year old hates the guy you bring home that is okay. Often young kids feel threatened by a new guy in the picture. Don't introduce them too early and validate their feelings. But if you know the guy is a good one it is best to trust yourself and make your own decisions. Moms in Committed Relationships-The biggest argument these couples have is about parenting. So often mothers try to protect their kids from...

Please Tell Me You Didn’t Say This in Your Profile!

I am always on match.com making over profiles and I see so many simple ways that one could improve their profile in just a few words. Here is a list of some of my favorite silly mistakes and how to clean them up quickly!   “I love my life”. Many profiles actually start with this sentence or slip it in somewhere along the way. Nothing says I hate my life more than writing that you love your life. I believe many do have a great life but when that is the opening line it just sounds so forced. It is especially funny when you click on their pictures and they are frowning in half of them.  “I want a successful, intelligent, confident” blah blah blah. This really says that you have dated just the opposite. Who doesn’t want those things? It is pretty obvious. No one is going to say I want a...

Five Things That Will Move You Closer to Finding Love!

Next time you are in a store start a conversation with a random person. It could be in the deli line, produce section or checkout line. Seriously sometimes we are standing next to someone for 15 minutes and we don’t even acknowledge their existence. Try it once and you will see it can make the moment more interesting for everyone. Once you realize how easy this is you will be more comfortable starting random conversations with more and more people! The more people you know the better your chances are that you will meet someone that you are interested in dating. Change your search criteria on match.com. If you could meet an amazing guy that has a super successful business but didn’t finish college 31 years ago would that really matter? Or perhaps there is a girl that considers her figure to be curvy. She might be in great shape yet...

Why Would You Ever Post That Pic?

If you have bad internet dating profile pictures this is sure to help you. If you are viewing really bad profiles pictures this is sure to make you laugh. Here are my top five tips on the subject. 1. If the picture isn’t within the year ask yourself these questions… Am I so delusional that I actually think I still look like this? Do I fear rejection so badly that I think I will pretend this is me just to get a date? Do I actually think she won’t notice that I am completely bald in real life and have a full head of hair in my pictures? If you fear the rejection I can promise you that you will still get rejected. The rejection will just take place after you dropped $60 on dinner and the girl pulls away at the kiss. Just be honest with yourself. If you don’t like it change it!...

What To Ask Your Date Besides “What are Your Hobbies?” and “What Do You Do For Work”?

Whether you are in an early match.com chat, on a live 5 minute speed date or perhaps just out at a bar these questions will come in handy. Most of us dread the hobby question because quite frankly the average person doesn’t have many amazing hobbies. Most of us work, have kids and maybe hit the gym a couple of days a week. But those aren’t really hobbies. The other question we hate is about our careers. Many people don’t love their jobs and find it boring to talk about. So here are a few questions to add to that database in your mind that will generate a stimulating conversation. What was the best part of your day? Who is the last person that made you laugh? What was the last clothing item you bought? What is the oldest thing in your freezer? What is your least favorite household chore? Who is your celebrity lookalike? What is your...

How Can I Meet “Normal” Singles?

I know it can be frustrating trying to meet other singles. But on the bright side I can assure you that there are many! I know this because I have over 2000 singles in my database and I can’t imagine I have found every single guy and girl out there. I understand internet dating and speed dating aren’t for everyone. So I promise no dirty sales pitching in this blog. Many of you want it to happen naturally. Sometimes we have to push nature just a little bit. And that might mean just getting up and getting out the door. Here are my best tips to push the process and help you meet your match a little more naturally. Find the events-It is summer time and so many parks have great outdoor concerts http://www.elizabethpark.org/summer-concert-series-2013.htm. The local museums are starting to offer some great events too https://got5minutes.com/register/?event_id=222  . Another favorite that so many...

Are You Pickier Than an Eighth Grader?

Are You Pickier Than an Eighth Grader? My 13 year old son just shared a story with me about a time he went to ask a girl out at school. We will call her Annie. Matt recalled wearing his favorite T-Shirt and basketball sneakers and remembers taking extra time to look his best that morning. He arrived to school with all the anticipation of seeing Annie and asking her out. Annie chose a thick, bright pink belt to wear on this day (she apparently knew he was going to ask her out). Matthew thought the belt was awful and I quote him as saying “I was thinking ewwwww, I am not going out with a girl that wears that.” I found the story humorous and appreciated that he shared so much with me. I wondered if Annie was thinking the belt was the deal breaker. Perhaps she regretted it the whole...

Opposites Attract But Will They Drive Each Other Nuts?

Opposites can attract. Seriously, I don’t want a guy that shares my interests! Anyone that wants to needle point, scrap book or take a Zumba class is just not the guy’s guy that I desire! You don’t need shared interests, aligned political views or even like the same TV shows! In fact I love lying in bed watching Parenthood while my husband is in the den watching hockey. But not all opposites mesh quite so well! Here are a few that don’t and some tips to make it work! Opposite spending habits. When you have a compulsive shopaholic dating a penny pincher it will often lead to stress, arguments and potential lies. I remember my mother used to tell my father that every outfit she bought was 1/2 the price that it really was. My Dad picked up on this began doubling the price she told him. At that point my...