Is Your Teenager Having Sex?

I just watched an episode of Parenthood in which the teenager revealed to her mother that she was having sex. I would like to think that the reaction of the mother was just a case of poor script writing. But then I had to question whether or not all or even any parents react this way. To sum the scene up quickly, Haddie is a senior in high school and in love with her very sweet boyfriend. When she told her mother (who already knew it was happening) her mother’s face was taken over by a look of shame, she stumbled on her words and finally said “I just have no idea what to say.” She then asked her daughter a few questions about being pressured and using protection. I wonder if the intent of the writers was to offer an example of how a mother might react. I think...

I Don’t Want a Penpal!

It happens all the time! You meet someone that seems great on match.com or whatever site you select. You begin to email each other and you sense you have a lot in common. The emails get longer and longer and you begin to get bored! You rush through the message just to see if he ends it with asking you out and he doesn’t. If you just wanted a penpal you could date a prisoner or someone across the country. But this time you find someone within 20 miles of you and he doesn’t seem to want to come out of the computer. Here is my remedy… Before you even start chatting with someone take a good look at their profile and not just the pictures. If someone has a profile that drags on and on I disqualify that person. If you are bored in just reading their profile I can assure...

Never Date this Type of Guy!

You have met the perfect man! He professes his love within days of contacting you. He has an amazing career, survived a big tragedy in life (typically the death of his wife), he adores children and always wanted a family, he buys you nice gifts and works hard to show you how close the two of you are. He also claims he rarely dates but there is just something so special about you. You finally believe that love might not just be a fantasy. You find it refreshing after all the jerks you have dated in the past. It seems a bit fast but you have rationalized that you deserve this and you believe that you are special! You avoid sharing too many details with your friends because you sense they will discourage you.  You feel a little uneasy but want this to work so badly that you fall into a...

Only Read if You are a Bitch or the Men Who Love Us!

I know there are many who claim men like bitchy women. And truth is that some men do like bitchy women. But I can assure you that the men that like the bitches are not the kind of guys we want to date. I don’t want to get into semantics over legal definitions here. We all need to agree that a bitch is NOT a woman with an opinion or a woman with confidence. A bitch is someone that is always looking for a reason to be miserable. If she doesn’t have anything to complain about she will find or create something. And she only looks forward to her man coming home so she can attempt to make his life as miserable as she is feeling. That is a BITCH!! And truth is I know many of them. I have witnessed friends and neighbors call their husbands at work and vent for 5...

Why Wear the Wedding Ring?

I admit it I don’t like wearing my wedding ring. I could make up some reasons but truth is I just don’t like jewelry. I wear earrings and random necklaces that would be considered costume jewelry. 12 years ago my husband and I visited North Hampton, MA and I selected a ring for a few hundred dollars. It is a cool artsy ring that I still love. And when we go out on a date (which is rare) I always put it on. My husband has huge hands (those who have read my others blogs know I don’t date guys with small hands). He doesn’t like jewelry and quite honestly a ring on those sausage fingers would look pretty gross! So most of the time Erik and I are ringless! Ancient Romans believed that you wear the ring on the 4th left finger because that vein goes straight to the heart....

Shallow?

Think back to your first crush… were the earlier crushes that much different from those who you are attracted today? Studies have shown that by the age of 8 we begin to develop “our type”. Honestly, I think mine started even younger. Now I didn’t always date “my type” because I had a lot of desperate years where I would take what I could get.  But my type hasn’t strayed all that much. I never liked the super big muscle guys (although I did date one from match.com). It ended when he confessed that he wanted to be a stripper and texted me some nude poses. That was always a massive turn off. I also never cared much for the super educated, cerebral type. For me I have always liked the funny, quirky guy with the boy next door type of looks. I had a pretty big list of turn...

What Are Your Kids Learning About Love, Dating and Relationships?

I remember having a group of friends over one night when my parents were out for the evening. We found some porn videos in my parent’s night stand, an old bottle of vodka in the bar and had ourselves a little party. We were smart enough to add water to the half empty vodka bottle and put those videos back exactly how they were found. Truth is my mom would not have cared all that much if we got caught! She was always opened to talking about sex at anytime! She was a bit on the wild side and everyone seemed to love that about her, including some of my boyfriends. My Flintstone vitamins turned into birth control pills the day I hit puberty, she answered any questions about sex without reservation and I pretty much knew all I needed to know before the experiences actually happened. Many parents are willing...

It’s Not Complicated, You’ve Been Partially Dumped!

What do I mean by a partially dumped? Well there are 2 types. The most obvious type is when a committed relationship is terminated but the sexual encounters continue. And the less obvious situation is when the physical attraction has died but you still spend time together. Both recipes for disaster, both miserable and both will unlikely ever bring you back to where you once were. Let’s dissect this sexual relationship first! You were once in love, connected with each other every day, your friends knew you as a couple and you knew exactly where the relationship stood. Why did things have to change? Basically because he is wondering what other options are out there. For whatever reason the relationship holds no future but the sex is good. Good sex however is not enough to ensure everlasting love! But it sure is hard to walk away from. So you are broken...

Must I Respond to Every Match Email That I Get?

My answer is no! I hear this debate constantly. Surprisingly I hear more men whining and complaining about this then I do women. And I must say that a nagging, whining man is just not very sexy! So guys please let me put this in perspective for you! First of all so many of the guys literally write a 5000 word essay in that ‘about me’ section. Internet dating is so time consuming as it is. If you honestly expect us to read the long boring profile and then take the time to respond and tell you why we are not compatible it is just not going to happen. We are internet dating here. It is understood that you likely sent 25 messages to 25 different women. It is not as if we have some deep meaningful relationship that warrants any type of closure. No response means we are not interested. So...

Casual Sex Anyone?

Sex is great and we all want to have sex regardless of whether or not we are in a committed relationship. I get so many questions from singles about who they should and shouldn’t be having casual sex with. So hopefully my feedback will be useful to you. I have to tell you that I am not a fan of this casual sex. But if you have to do it then keep these things in mind. Is it casual sex or are you being used? I hear so many women convincing themselves that they have a friend with benefits or a casual lover. It is as if putting one of these labels on it makes it more meaningful. Let me be blunt…if he is f!@#ing you while waiting for something better to come along and you are into him…you are being used for sex. If you are both using each other and...



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