Do Bitchy Women Get Better Gifts On Valentines Day?

Most women who are in crappy, loveless, or emotionally neglecting relationships want the traditional hallmark holiday Valentine's Day gifts! And truth is these husbands usually comply. They understand that their workaholic habits, secret infidelity or inability to meet their wives emotional needs can be  a lot to take. They may feel some hidden guilt or perhaps just find it easier to drop $365 on a Pandora bracelet than to listen to her nag about what they didn’t do! The sad part is that these women know they are guilt gifts yet still require and almost demand that they get them year after year. It never quite fixes the deeper wound the relationship is experiencing but it sure does provide some instant gratification. Women who are in happier relationships require a lot less. You see these women get love and affection on a daily basis. They feel special most of the time...

Can You Really Deal With What They Are Thinking?

There are times when the one you are dating finds you annoying, unattractive or just a complete turn off! Sure we all have our off days. We are human! We wake up with bad breath, fluctuate in our weight, have bad hair days, body odor and moody dramatic moments. Perhaps the dress we thought was hot doesn’t work anymore or the new lipstick makes us look cheesy. Or perhaps it is just a turn off to that one person that we love. What do you really want them to do? Please don’t respond to the question by saying that they should just love you for you. This is ridiculous and a complete cop out! If your significant other is turned off then this is a chemistry thing. And chemistry is real. We can’t control the things that turn us on and off no matter how hard we try! There are two options...

Quickest Ways to Ruin the Dinner Date!

The majority of early dates take place in a restaurant. And despite my constant advice about first dates being quick ice cream or coffee dates, many of you still choose that restaurant! I understand you are hopeful that there will be a connection and you want more time together. So go ahead pick your favorite restaurant and best of luck! Oh and remember if you don’t like your date and want to avoid telling them outright, just do one of the things on the list below and I can guarantee you they will never want to see you again either!  Here is my list! Feel free to add yours in the comments!                                                                                    ...

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Do you know anyone in one of those ambivalent relationships? You know the type that is always questioning whether or not they should stay or go. You would imagine that they get so exhausted trying to make a decision and really you and everyone that loves them knows exactly what they should do! Here is a little activity that might help you or “your friend” make that tough decision. Take a moment to imagine spending the rest of your life with this person as is. Imagine every holiday, and vacation includes this person with the traits that you find undesirable. Depending on where you are in life imagine this person co-parenting children and engaging in school events. Think about what you are feeling. Does dread come to mind? Are you thinking oh please this would be hell? Or are you thinking that it would be perfect and it makes you very happy?...

Am I a Jerk or a Stud?

Question for The Date Doctor: I had a date 3 weeks ago with a girl that I like. Our schedules were tricky and our next date is to be this weekend. In the past week I met another the girl that has knocked my socks off. Everything was just perfect and I want to pursue this. I can't get her off my mind and would love to be going out with her this weekend. But I worry about hurting the other girl and to complicate things my neighbor set us up. I think she was really looking forward to our date as her life is quite hectic. Do I do the right thing and take her out and miss a chance to go out with this new love interest of mine? Ok Mr. Stud, I hate to sound too harsh but I am speaking for all women when I respond to this...

Soul Mates?

Do you believe everyone has a soul mate? When you first start dating someone you can’t possibly see through to their soul. You see nothing more than a shell with some fantasies about what the soul may contain. To clarify the word “soul” I looked it up on dictionary.com and found multiple definitions. But what I gathered was it is the feelings, thoughts and actions of people or the emotional part of a person. To me that means everything except the outer exterior. I call that the shell. Initially we fall for the shell, the body, the smile, the face and even the clothes and style of the person we see. We basically become what I will call shell mates in the beginning of any relationship. As time passes something happens to that shell. It changes shape, loses hair, wrinkles among many other things. The connection that those 2 shell...

The Turkey Dump

College kids call Thanksgiving Break the "turkey dump" as they return home for the holidays and break up with their hometown girlfriend to enjoy all college has to offer. Also some other couples on the verge of breaking up try to get that break up in before having to deal with the whole holiday gift exchange. While others hang on just to get through that last holiday together because they think that will be a better time. Whenever the dumping or being dumped actually happens this little quiz will help get you through. 1. With all the new technology folks are wondering what is the proper way to break up? a. New websites are available to help you (Idump4u.com or breakupemail.com) b. Texting ...

I thought for sure this one would call?

Dear Date Doctor, It makes no sense! We had a terrific date. We laughed, he was very affectionate and we had a great kiss good night. I drove home with the biggest smile on my face. Once again I was sure he would call and once again he didn't. Could you explain this concept to me PLEASE! Waiting Dear Waiting, First of all please don't ever wait for a guy to call. If it is really tearing you up, make the call! Make it quick and don't complain or freak out. Just say hello and see what happens. If he doesn't call you back then you need to move on. But at least you will know one way or the other. Guys are a bit funny when it comes to dating. Ladies can't hide when they are not that into a guy. It is so obvious from the moment they meet. The signs are...

Son of The Date Doctor on Facebook

Matthew just had his 11th birthday! He is into many things including facebook. I look over his shoulder as he chats with one particular girl we will call Jill (only because Matt will not be happy if I use her real name). I keep chiming in with my dating tips and realize it is no easy task to be the son of the Date Doctor. And I remind myself he is 11! I should just let him be a silly kid. But still the tips seem to jump out of my mouth. The first 2 were especially for Matt but you should follow them as well. And the rest would be true for anyone who is both dating and on facebook. 1. When you log in, wait a minute before jumping on the chat. You may be excited to type "hey" in that little box in the bottom right hand...

Got Dumped?

Ever dated a someone that just started treating you like crap because they were hoping you would do the break up? Or perhaps you just started treating someone poorly because you couldn't seem to fiigure out how to end that relationship? Whatever the situation is we have all been dumped or dumped someone at some point. It stings like a bee and hurts so badly for a few days, ok sometimes even weeks! I am not talking about long term marriages but those relationships that linger on for many months and seem to get worse and worse. We rationalize staying, hoping it will get better. And we end up dumped and needing to move on. Here are some tips on how to get over this and get over it fast! 1. Come on, there are a million things that this person did that drove you nuts! Everytime you think of a...