20 Things to Ask Your Date?

If you are trying to think of what to say to a match.com prospect, speed dater or someone you are newly dating try these.  These questions are likely going to make you laugh, lead into more interesting topics and help you get to know each other better. Just be sure to have your answers prepared before you ask. What was the last thing you spent over $100 on? What was the last thing you resisted buying? What was the last thing you cooked that failed? What is messier your car, fridge or desk? What was the last thing you had to fix? When did you last visit the Emergency Room? Would you rather have a cleaning lady or a chef? When was the last time you fell or did something clumsy? Does anyone in the room remind you of someone? What did you have for breakfast today? What is your least favorite chore? Have you ever met anyone famous? Who is your celebrity...

Five Things That Will Move You Closer to Finding Love!

Next time you are in a store start a conversation with a random person. It could be in the deli line, produce section or checkout line. Seriously sometimes we are standing next to someone for 15 minutes and we don’t even acknowledge their existence. Try it once and you will see it can make the moment more interesting for everyone. Once you realize how easy this is you will be more comfortable starting random conversations with more and more people! The more people you know the better your chances are that you will meet someone that you are interested in dating. Change your search criteria on match.com. If you could meet an amazing guy that has a super successful business but didn’t finish college 31 years ago would that really matter? Or perhaps there is a girl that considers her figure to be curvy. She might be in great shape yet...

Why Would You Ever Post That Pic?

If you have bad internet dating profile pictures this is sure to help you. If you are viewing really bad profiles pictures this is sure to make you laugh. Here are my top five tips on the subject. 1. If the picture isn’t within the year ask yourself these questions… Am I so delusional that I actually think I still look like this? Do I fear rejection so badly that I think I will pretend this is me just to get a date? Do I actually think she won’t notice that I am completely bald in real life and have a full head of hair in my pictures? If you fear the rejection I can promise you that you will still get rejected. The rejection will just take place after you dropped $60 on dinner and the girl pulls away at the kiss. Just be honest with yourself. If you don’t like it change it!...

What To Ask Your Date Besides “What are Your Hobbies?” and “What Do You Do For Work”?

Whether you are in an early match.com chat, on a live 5 minute speed date or perhaps just out at a bar these questions will come in handy. Most of us dread the hobby question because quite frankly the average person doesn’t have many amazing hobbies. Most of us work, have kids and maybe hit the gym a couple of days a week. But those aren’t really hobbies. The other question we hate is about our careers. Many people don’t love their jobs and find it boring to talk about. So here are a few questions to add to that database in your mind that will generate a stimulating conversation. What was the best part of your day? Who is the last person that made you laugh? What was the last clothing item you bought? What is the oldest thing in your freezer? What is your least favorite household chore? Who is your celebrity lookalike? What is your...

You Are Clueless When it Comes to Internet Dating!

I can’t believe how many ridiculous mistakes I have seen as I have been making over online dating profiles. I could write a book on the subject but don’t really have the energy for it. So here are 5 quick tips as to how you just might be screwing up. I will write 5 more soon but please let me know which ones you have participated in. Your primary picture is dark, distant or blurry. If this is the case you will be overlooked right at the window shopping stage. You just sort of fade out when one is doing that quick search. You wrote a book for your bio. People want to get in and out when reading these things. No one wants to spend more than a minute on your profile. Write two quick paragraphs that are fun and catchy as opposed to posting a resume or life story! Your first...

Are You Really Fed Up With Being Single? Start Here!

People make lasting and dramatic changes in their lives when they become so fed up they can’t stand it anymore. We see this with folks who are fat or out of shape. We also see it with those who hate their careers. My husband actually started personal training about 3 months ago and gave up eating any processed carbohydrates. He looks and feels like a different man! I personally started my own business to escape working a 9 to 5 job that I hated! Many others have had similar experiences when they too have become fed up. So now I want to ask you a question… Are you fed up with being single? Are you so sick of waiting for a date to call? Are you tired of being blown off? Do you just want to find someone to love and enjoy life with? If you answered yes to any of these questions you are well...

Never Date this Type of Guy!

You have met the perfect man! He professes his love within days of contacting you. He has an amazing career, survived a big tragedy in life (typically the death of his wife), he adores children and always wanted a family, he buys you nice gifts and works hard to show you how close the two of you are. He also claims he rarely dates but there is just something so special about you. You finally believe that love might not just be a fantasy. You find it refreshing after all the jerks you have dated in the past. It seems a bit fast but you have rationalized that you deserve this and you believe that you are special! You avoid sharing too many details with your friends because you sense they will discourage you.  You feel a little uneasy but want this to work so badly that you fall into a...

Guys on Match MUST READ!

I am doing a little match.com mentoring for a lovely lady and am quite annoyed by these profiles I am reading. Guys if you could all just fix up your profiles based on my advice I would be able to help my beautiful client find love on match much quicker. Are you ready? STOP posting pictures of your children on match.com. Go right in to your profile and delete any pictures with your kids! Put those on your facebook page. Corny is crap! Don’t say you want to walk through the raindrops with me. My client is not looking to date an asexual poetry teacher here. She wants a man! No offense to the poetry teachers, I am sure many are very good guys. Sorry! But not such a man that you post pictures of yourself sweating or even worse with your shirt off. Trust me if you are cut we can tell...

Must I Respond to Every Match Email That I Get?

My answer is no! I hear this debate constantly. Surprisingly I hear more men whining and complaining about this then I do women. And I must say that a nagging, whining man is just not very sexy! So guys please let me put this in perspective for you! First of all so many of the guys literally write a 5000 word essay in that ‘about me’ section. Internet dating is so time consuming as it is. If you honestly expect us to read the long boring profile and then take the time to respond and tell you why we are not compatible it is just not going to happen. We are internet dating here. It is understood that you likely sent 25 messages to 25 different women. It is not as if we have some deep meaningful relationship that warrants any type of closure. No response means we are not interested. So...