Don’t Be Afraid to get Naked

There are some women who feel sexiest flaunting their bodies and sporting sexy lingerie. Others prefer to be hidden behind layers of clothing and dread the day a man begins to peel these off. Who would you rather be? It is important to feel sexy with your clothes off. Women should be able to enjoy sex. If they are self-conscious and focusing energy on how to hide their belly with a pillow, shut the lights and limit themselves to one position they are not going to be able to focus on the pleasure. Looking and feeling your best is important in life and I think we all know the obvious truth about clean eating and exercise. The simple truth is we come in all shapes and sizes and even with the best habits some of us have a shape that we simply don’t like. Rather than waste energy on trying...

You Might be Crazy?

I know this may offend many women but I am willing to take the risk. We often hear guys say things like: She’s nuts. They are all crazy you just need to find the crazy you can deal with. She is hot until she opens her mouth. These are the common things that most men complain about. So my challenge to the ladies is to think about whether or not you are nuts. I really don’t like the words “nuts” and “crazy” but because these are the words so many guys use I think we need to stick with them. Here of some examples of what men would qualify as nuts. Jill asks her husband how her new jeans look. He simply replies “fine”. Jill yells at him and gets upset that he didn’t offer her more of a reaction. Imagine if her husband told her that he really thought the jeans made her look...

Why We Stay in Miserable Relationships!

I was sitting in the sauna at LA fitness today when a woman asked me if I was the Date Doctor on 96.5 TIC. I told her I was and proceeded to hear about her friend’s marriage. Her friend is clearly miserable, knows the passion has died but can’t walk away. She asked me point blank why her friend stays. People stay in wrong relationships all the time! Why? These are the most common reasons why they stay. Feel free to add your experiences in the comments. She is afraid to be alone. Some women will express complete dread at the thought of starting over. My advice is to tell that friend to stop imaging being alone and start imaging having sex with some hot new boyfriend for the first time. Imagine kissing someone that you can’t keep your hands off. Imagine hearing the garage door open and not cringing because your...

I Can’t Get Over Him?

You pass his car on the street and your stomach turns to knots, you wake up in the morning and your heart sinks when there is no text message waiting on your phone from him and you have convinced yourself never to date again. It is called a heart break and I have a little news flash for you…people get over this day after day. Sure I understand you are a little special and your situation was somehow a little worse. Trust me I have been through it a million times. First thing you need to realize is that this is only as awful as you convince yourself! For some reason so many people resist believing me on this one but it is so very true! If you walk around day and night saying to yourself “I will never get over this” or “I can’t deal with the pain I am...

Casual Sex Anyone?

Sex is great and we all want to have sex regardless of whether or not we are in a committed relationship. I get so many questions from singles about who they should and shouldn’t be having casual sex with. So hopefully my feedback will be useful to you. I have to tell you that I am not a fan of this casual sex. But if you have to do it then keep these things in mind. Is it casual sex or are you being used? I hear so many women convincing themselves that they have a friend with benefits or a casual lover. It is as if putting one of these labels on it makes it more meaningful. Let me be blunt…if he is f!@#ing you while waiting for something better to come along and you are into him…you are being used for sex. If you are both using each other and...

Why Does Match Work For So Many But Not ME!!

Why Does Match Work for Some and Not Me? Most are going to tell you that this is because your profile looks like crap and it needs a makeover. Now for some this is a simple solution. But I think that the profile that you created is reflection of who you are, how you see yourself and what you believe you deserve. If you are wearing a sexy bikini in your picture (and you are not at the beach) you will likely attract men that are mostly thinking about having sex with you. If your profile shares too much about a past relationship that was awful you will most likely attract someone who is co-dependent and wants to rescue you (not very sexy after a while). If you are constantly bragging about yourself you will attract those who are vulnerable and naïve and believe whatever you bragged about was important. When in...

High Sex Drive? Jumping in to Bed too Soon?

I hear it all the time! Women are becoming more and more aggressive sexually and more often than not men are getting turned off! This doesn’t necessarily mean that they are so turned off that they kick you out of bed…But they are typically turned off enough that they don’t call you back the next day. I understand that sex feels great and you deserve to have it and enjoy every minute of it! So if all you want is a roll in the hay then no need to read on. But if you are actually seeking a long term relationship where sex is one of the many benefits then you need to hold off for just a minute. Try some of these tips on those first few dates and you will be just fine! Where the Granny Panties! The one sure way you won’t let a guy in your pants...

Am I a Jerk or a Stud?

Question for The Date Doctor: I had a date 3 weeks ago with a girl that I like. Our schedules were tricky and our next date is to be this weekend. In the past week I met another the girl that has knocked my socks off. Everything was just perfect and I want to pursue this. I can't get her off my mind and would love to be going out with her this weekend. But I worry about hurting the other girl and to complicate things my neighbor set us up. I think she was really looking forward to our date as her life is quite hectic. Do I do the right thing and take her out and miss a chance to go out with this new love interest of mine? Ok Mr. Stud, I hate to sound too harsh but I am speaking for all women when I respond to this...

Is Amanda Knox hated for her Sexual Openness?

Is Amanda Knox hated for her Sexual Comfort? I have followed the Amanda Knox case in the same way that my husband follows hockey, perhaps even more deeply! I actually cried when the verdict was read and I don’t know that my husband cried when his team (The Vancouver Canucks) lost the Stanley Cup. I have seen the media manipulate cases for many years. It has always been an infatuation of mine. It began with Pamela Smart 20 years ago and continued through the Amanda Knox case today. Although I believe Pamela was completely innocent of the murder of her husband it was easier for me to wrap my arms around why people hated her so much. She admits and regrets an affair she had 20 years ago with her 15 year old student who later murdered her husband. Those of us with sons (and even those without) agree that this behavior...