Must I Respond to Every Match Email That I Get?

My answer is no! I hear this debate constantly. Surprisingly I hear more men whining and complaining about this then I do women. And I must say that a nagging, whining man is just not very sexy! So guys please let me put this in perspective for you! First of all so many of the guys literally write a 5000 word essay in that ‘about me’ section. Internet dating is so time consuming as it is. If you honestly expect us to read the long boring profile and then take the time to respond and tell you why we are not compatible it is just not going to happen. We are internet dating here. It is understood that you likely sent 25 messages to 25 different women. It is not as if we have some deep meaningful relationship that warrants any type of closure. No response means we are not interested. So...

Misplacing your Underwear-Great Way to Flirt

Well in most cases married couples claim they are too old, tired, comfortable or disinterested to flirt with their spouse! These couples couldn't be making a bigger mistake. Even if it feels forced initially flirting is a very important part of keeping your marriage fresh, happy and exciting. It let's your spouse know that you still find them appealing, desirable and interesting. And best of all there is a great reward with no financial investment required. So if you haven't flirted with your spouse in a while pick your favorite from the list below or better yet pick the whole list! 1. Ladies if you do the laundry switch things up once in a while. Take your sexiest pair of underwear and accidentally or not so accidentally put them in your spouses drawer with his socks and boxers. He is sure to blush when he picks them up. 2. After a hot shower the...

Which Came First… You Became Too Needy or He Became a Jerk?

Let me paint the perfect picture of how a girl comes to think she is too needy. Girl meets a great guy! They start dating. He calls and texts every day. They have sex, spend nights together, meet each other’s friends and everything is perfect. Suddenly the guy changes his behavior. The time between text messages starts to increase rapidly. He doesn’t commit to plans with you as quickly as he used to and your consistent date nights become inconsistent. You start to feel that surge of panic. And you ask yourself this ridiculous question…Am I too needy? You begin to rationalize that things progressed quickly and perhaps he just needs a little space. You fight the urge to follow up an unanswered text with a phone call and convince yourself you are being too needy. You seek advice from friends and only listen to those who are convincing you that...

What I learned in High School about Valentines Day!

Stoughton High School back in the 80’s holds both good and bad memories for me. The worst came from that dreaded February 14! Some brilliant school personnel or PTO mom came up with the idea to have these young teens purchase  roses to be delivered to someone they had a crush on. We all waited patiently in or boring classes for the knock on the door. A student would enter the room with a big white box of roses. She would eagerly call out the names of the girls who received a rose and each would run up blushing and smiling as they read who it was from. In all 4 years of high school I never got up to claim that rose. First let me tell you this whole concept is ridiculous! Why would the school even consider trying to teach these students that crushes, dating and love are valuable...

Do Bitchy Women Get Better Gifts On Valentines Day?

Most women who are in crappy, loveless, or emotionally neglecting relationships want the traditional hallmark holiday Valentine's Day gifts! And truth is these husbands usually comply. They understand that their workaholic habits, secret infidelity or inability to meet their wives emotional needs can be  a lot to take. They may feel some hidden guilt or perhaps just find it easier to drop $365 on a Pandora bracelet than to listen to her nag about what they didn’t do! The sad part is that these women know they are guilt gifts yet still require and almost demand that they get them year after year. It never quite fixes the deeper wound the relationship is experiencing but it sure does provide some instant gratification. Women who are in happier relationships require a lot less. You see these women get love and affection on a daily basis. They feel special most of the time...

Do You Run Here Often?

So you are on the treadmill and someone very cute hops on the bike right beside you. Do you say hello? Or just stay continue reading your magazine with your head set on? So many people have made that popular resolution to hit the gym more and get back in shape. It is the perfect resolution for someone who is single! First of all looking and feeling your best will always make you more desirable in the dating arena. But it is also a terrific place  to find that perfect connection. I know many are thinking it sounds great in theory but how do you actually initiate a discussion with someone at the gym? I just happen to have a few great tips for you today! 1. First you have to get off the couch and go to the gym! 2. Look cute but not like you are trying to look cute. In...

Quickest Way to Find Love!

New Years has just passed us by and Valentines Day will be creeping up in no time! Yet so many singles can't figure out just how to find that perfect match. Online dating is on the rise and so many, including myself have had great success with this. But others fear this exciting way to find love. Many imagine their potential suitor won't look like their picture or will just lack that instant connection. I remember my many first match.com dates. I was either thinking…Oh please let this be him or oh no please don’t let this be him. Those who have tried internet dating understand exactly where I am coming from! Although I have endless tips on how to make online dating work for you I respect your decision to avoid it at all costs. But speed dating solves a lot of these problems! Speed dating allows you to find out...

Quickest Ways to Ruin the Dinner Date!

The majority of early dates take place in a restaurant. And despite my constant advice about first dates being quick ice cream or coffee dates, many of you still choose that restaurant! I understand you are hopeful that there will be a connection and you want more time together. So go ahead pick your favorite restaurant and best of luck! Oh and remember if you don’t like your date and want to avoid telling them outright, just do one of the things on the list below and I can guarantee you they will never want to see you again either!  Here is my list! Feel free to add yours in the comments!                                                                                    ...

Which is Better for you…Speed or Internet Dating?

Speed Dating Versus Internet Dating It is a great time to be single! I know those of you who feel like you have been single forever just want to scream at me right now. But what I am saying is that there are so many terrific ways to meet singles these days. You no longer have to rely on your parents to find you a match, hang out at crowded bars or experience painful blind dates. Two very popular ways to find that special person are internet dating and speed dating. I am often asked, “which one is better?” They are both terrific ways to meet people! In fact, I met my husband on match.com 10 years ago! Today 1 out of every 5 couples meet online and that number is only going to get bigger. If you are one of the many people trying to decide which one will work best for...

Love Does Not Hurt! Especially Not Like This!

A dear friend of mine experienced a horrific tragedy this week. Her lovely 22 year old daughter was brutally stabbed and murdered by an ex-boyfriend. Someone who allegedly loved her over the past 8 years, yet took her life in a rage of anger. They were two kids that began a relationship when they were about 14 and 17 years of age. I don’t have all of the answers and still can’t wrap my mind around how this comes to be. But I have my thoughts on this subject. Not that these ideas could have solved or prevented this but I think they are worth listening to. I personally have two beautiful boys. One is 12 years old and the other just four. How cute is it that they both have crushes on a girl with the same name? It is really not that cute at all. I have heard people ask...