I Am Curvy, Slender and Athletic with the Potential to Get Fat

If these internet dating sites allowed me to select multiple body types on my profile I would check at least the three in this title. Would you write to me? Would you even click my profile if that was the first thing you read? This whole “body type” selection question is the most difficult part for both sides of the dating sites. The one writing their profile wants to catch someone’s attention without being dishonest. The one browsing through the profiles is always wondering how honest the person is with that question. It is not always about dishonesty. There are four reasons why people are inaccurate. 1.  The slightly overweight person is feeling empowered as they write that profile. They feel as though they have taken a giant leap to find love. They actually believe that by the time they get to a date they will have lost those few extra pounds...

Is Your Teenager Having Sex?

I just watched an episode of Parenthood in which the teenager revealed to her mother that she was having sex. I would like to think that the reaction of the mother was just a case of poor script writing. But then I had to question whether or not all or even any parents react this way. To sum the scene up quickly, Haddie is a senior in high school and in love with her very sweet boyfriend. When she told her mother (who already knew it was happening) her mother’s face was taken over by a look of shame, she stumbled on her words and finally said “I just have no idea what to say.” She then asked her daughter a few questions about being pressured and using protection. I wonder if the intent of the writers was to offer an example of how a mother might react. I think...

Are You Really Fed Up With Being Single? Start Here!

People make lasting and dramatic changes in their lives when they become so fed up they can’t stand it anymore. We see this with folks who are fat or out of shape. We also see it with those who hate their careers. My husband actually started personal training about 3 months ago and gave up eating any processed carbohydrates. He looks and feels like a different man! I personally started my own business to escape working a 9 to 5 job that I hated! Many others have had similar experiences when they too have become fed up. So now I want to ask you a question… Are you fed up with being single? Are you so sick of waiting for a date to call? Are you tired of being blown off? Do you just want to find someone to love and enjoy life with? If you answered yes to any of these questions you are well...

I Don’t Want a Penpal!

It happens all the time! You meet someone that seems great on match.com or whatever site you select. You begin to email each other and you sense you have a lot in common. The emails get longer and longer and you begin to get bored! You rush through the message just to see if he ends it with asking you out and he doesn’t. If you just wanted a penpal you could date a prisoner or someone across the country. But this time you find someone within 20 miles of you and he doesn’t seem to want to come out of the computer. Here is my remedy… Before you even start chatting with someone take a good look at their profile and not just the pictures. If someone has a profile that drags on and on I disqualify that person. If you are bored in just reading their profile I can assure...

Never Date this Type of Guy!

You have met the perfect man! He professes his love within days of contacting you. He has an amazing career, survived a big tragedy in life (typically the death of his wife), he adores children and always wanted a family, he buys you nice gifts and works hard to show you how close the two of you are. He also claims he rarely dates but there is just something so special about you. You finally believe that love might not just be a fantasy. You find it refreshing after all the jerks you have dated in the past. It seems a bit fast but you have rationalized that you deserve this and you believe that you are special! You avoid sharing too many details with your friends because you sense they will discourage you.  You feel a little uneasy but want this to work so badly that you fall into a...

Only Read if You are a Bitch or the Men Who Love Us!

I know there are many who claim men like bitchy women. And truth is that some men do like bitchy women. But I can assure you that the men that like the bitches are not the kind of guys we want to date. I don’t want to get into semantics over legal definitions here. We all need to agree that a bitch is NOT a woman with an opinion or a woman with confidence. A bitch is someone that is always looking for a reason to be miserable. If she doesn’t have anything to complain about she will find or create something. And she only looks forward to her man coming home so she can attempt to make his life as miserable as she is feeling. That is a BITCH!! And truth is I know many of them. I have witnessed friends and neighbors call their husbands at work and vent for 5...

Why Wear the Wedding Ring?

I admit it I don’t like wearing my wedding ring. I could make up some reasons but truth is I just don’t like jewelry. I wear earrings and random necklaces that would be considered costume jewelry. 12 years ago my husband and I visited North Hampton, MA and I selected a ring for a few hundred dollars. It is a cool artsy ring that I still love. And when we go out on a date (which is rare) I always put it on. My husband has huge hands (those who have read my others blogs know I don’t date guys with small hands). He doesn’t like jewelry and quite honestly a ring on those sausage fingers would look pretty gross! So most of the time Erik and I are ringless! Ancient Romans believed that you wear the ring on the 4th left finger because that vein goes straight to the heart....

Shallow?

Think back to your first crush… were the earlier crushes that much different from those who you are attracted today? Studies have shown that by the age of 8 we begin to develop “our type”. Honestly, I think mine started even younger. Now I didn’t always date “my type” because I had a lot of desperate years where I would take what I could get.  But my type hasn’t strayed all that much. I never liked the super big muscle guys (although I did date one from match.com). It ended when he confessed that he wanted to be a stripper and texted me some nude poses. That was always a massive turn off. I also never cared much for the super educated, cerebral type. For me I have always liked the funny, quirky guy with the boy next door type of looks. I had a pretty big list of turn...

It’s Not Complicated, You’ve Been Partially Dumped!

What do I mean by a partially dumped? Well there are 2 types. The most obvious type is when a committed relationship is terminated but the sexual encounters continue. And the less obvious situation is when the physical attraction has died but you still spend time together. Both recipes for disaster, both miserable and both will unlikely ever bring you back to where you once were. Let’s dissect this sexual relationship first! You were once in love, connected with each other every day, your friends knew you as a couple and you knew exactly where the relationship stood. Why did things have to change? Basically because he is wondering what other options are out there. For whatever reason the relationship holds no future but the sex is good. Good sex however is not enough to ensure everlasting love! But it sure is hard to walk away from. So you are broken...

Guys on Match MUST READ!

I am doing a little match.com mentoring for a lovely lady and am quite annoyed by these profiles I am reading. Guys if you could all just fix up your profiles based on my advice I would be able to help my beautiful client find love on match much quicker. Are you ready? STOP posting pictures of your children on match.com. Go right in to your profile and delete any pictures with your kids! Put those on your facebook page. Corny is crap! Don’t say you want to walk through the raindrops with me. My client is not looking to date an asexual poetry teacher here. She wants a man! No offense to the poetry teachers, I am sure many are very good guys. Sorry! But not such a man that you post pictures of yourself sweating or even worse with your shirt off. Trust me if you are cut we can tell...