Match to Mystery

Have you ever chatted with a guy on match and everything seemed to be going so well? You make a date for the upcoming weekend and you are really excited to have connected with what seems to be a normal guy. The weekend approaches and the guy doesn’t confirm the date. He actually seems to have disappeared off the face of the planet. You check his match profile and it says he is online now. What the heck happened? The only way to know exactly what happened is for us to sit down and dissect your beliefs, dating habits and behavior. But I certainly can speculate and shed some light on this for you. I have to warn you that this is another brutally honest blog. Please don’t be offended as I find my clients get better results when I’m brutally honest. Most likely he was talking to multiple women and...

Why Would You Ever Post That Pic?

If you have bad internet dating profile pictures this is sure to help you. If you are viewing really bad profiles pictures this is sure to make you laugh. Here are my top five tips on the subject. 1. If the picture isn’t within the year ask yourself these questions… Am I so delusional that I actually think I still look like this? Do I fear rejection so badly that I think I will pretend this is me just to get a date? Do I actually think she won’t notice that I am completely bald in real life and have a full head of hair in my pictures? If you fear the rejection I can promise you that you will still get rejected. The rejection will just take place after you dropped $60 on dinner and the girl pulls away at the kiss. Just be honest with yourself. If you don’t like it change it!...

My One and Only One Night Stand

Sex Too Soon! I am all for great sex. And ladies if you can have a casual fling and feel no emotional attachment, rejection issues or loneliness go for it. But be honest with yourself. Are you having sex because you think it is all you can get? Are you having sex because you believe if you are good he will stick around? Or are you really just in it for the sex and have no other needs? Personally I think the majority of women have sex because they want more. I am going to share the one story where I had sex too soon. Yes it is true there was only one. I was in high school and chased Jimmy for my entire high school career. I was careful never to actually have sex with him. My mother was smart to put the fear of STD’s and pregnancy in my head the...

How Can I Meet “Normal” Singles?

I know it can be frustrating trying to meet other singles. But on the bright side I can assure you that there are many! I know this because I have over 2000 singles in my database and I can’t imagine I have found every single guy and girl out there. I understand internet dating and speed dating aren’t for everyone. So I promise no dirty sales pitching in this blog. Many of you want it to happen naturally. Sometimes we have to push nature just a little bit. And that might mean just getting up and getting out the door. Here are my best tips to push the process and help you meet your match a little more naturally. Find the events-It is summer time and so many parks have great outdoor concerts http://www.elizabethpark.org/summer-concert-series-2013.htm. The local museums are starting to offer some great events too https://got5minutes.com/register/?event_id=222  . Another favorite that so many...

Are You Pickier Than an Eighth Grader?

Are You Pickier Than an Eighth Grader? My 13 year old son just shared a story with me about a time he went to ask a girl out at school. We will call her Annie. Matt recalled wearing his favorite T-Shirt and basketball sneakers and remembers taking extra time to look his best that morning. He arrived to school with all the anticipation of seeing Annie and asking her out. Annie chose a thick, bright pink belt to wear on this day (she apparently knew he was going to ask her out). Matthew thought the belt was awful and I quote him as saying “I was thinking ewwwww, I am not going out with a girl that wears that.” I found the story humorous and appreciated that he shared so much with me. I wondered if Annie was thinking the belt was the deal breaker. Perhaps she regretted it the whole...

Opposites Attract But Will They Drive Each Other Nuts?

Opposites can attract. Seriously, I don’t want a guy that shares my interests! Anyone that wants to needle point, scrap book or take a Zumba class is just not the guy’s guy that I desire! You don’t need shared interests, aligned political views or even like the same TV shows! In fact I love lying in bed watching Parenthood while my husband is in the den watching hockey. But not all opposites mesh quite so well! Here are a few that don’t and some tips to make it work! Opposite spending habits. When you have a compulsive shopaholic dating a penny pincher it will often lead to stress, arguments and potential lies. I remember my mother used to tell my father that every outfit she bought was 1/2 the price that it really was. My Dad picked up on this began doubling the price she told him. At that point my...

I Love You? Or Not?

Some men just don’t say it! I can give you a few reasons why but I am not sure how much it matters? They associate “love” with a negative feeling or experience. The last woman they loved may have cheated, lied, sexually neglected or emasculated them. They have a belief that “love” entraps them into commitments that they are not ready to make. They simply don’t love you and are just sticking around because the sex is good and they haven’t found anything better. They grew up in a house where the word “love” was taboo. They believe that if they don’t say the words “I love you” they are protected from ever experiencing the emotions and negative experiences that come with being in love. To The Women Dating These Guys: Walk away ladies. Unless you grew up in a home where love was taboo or any of the above excuses apply to you. Being with a...

Back to School Time…Is Your Teen Dating?

Your teen age daughter walks in the door with tears in her eyes. You look at her and instantly know she was dumped by her boyfriend of seven weeks. You got such joy over their shared facebook posts about being in love. You gloated over how she lit up when he would send her a text message and you enjoyed chatting with your sister about how cute their love life was. But this was different, she was not smiling and tears were streaming down her face. Mother’s typically feel every emotion their child has and this seems to be a big one. What do you do? What is the best way to react in such a situation? I understand that many of you feel the need to coddle your child and wipe their tears. You will struggle to remember and share every detail of your first heartbreak in an effort to show...

You Are Clueless When it Comes to Internet Dating!

I can’t believe how many ridiculous mistakes I have seen as I have been making over online dating profiles. I could write a book on the subject but don’t really have the energy for it. So here are 5 quick tips as to how you just might be screwing up. I will write 5 more soon but please let me know which ones you have participated in. Your primary picture is dark, distant or blurry. If this is the case you will be overlooked right at the window shopping stage. You just sort of fade out when one is doing that quick search. You wrote a book for your bio. People want to get in and out when reading these things. No one wants to spend more than a minute on your profile. Write two quick paragraphs that are fun and catchy as opposed to posting a resume or life story! Your first...