Dating Dads

Here are some quick tips for Dating Dads that may surprise you. Dating Dads usually come with an ex. Remember they are your ex and it is not your responsibility to drop everything to help out. The sooner you get your ex to depend on someone else the sooner you will have your freedom to live your life. When a new date asks you about your divorce never blame the ex. It is really not an appropriate discussion for a new date. Keep your answer simple, honest and change the subject. Don't use this as an opportunity to blast your ex. This will just make you look bitter and angry. Something that is very unsexy when you are trying to connect with a new lady in your life. Don't over apologize to your new partner. Sometimes single dads have some guilt issues. When you screw up you need to own it. And you...

Stupid Things Never To Say In An Argument

People argue all the time. I have been married 10 years and we have some great arguments! It doesn't really matter who is right most of the time (although it is me). What matters is that it is constructive and everyone feels respected. Here are the stupid things that people say that can really just destroy an argument. You didn't apologize correctly-Many times someone will apologize to keep the peace and move on. Usually that person is the stronger person and you should be thankful they are able to do this. Obviously if they say "sorry but you are a complete idiot" you won't accept it. But if they say they are sorry take it and move on. You don't even know what you did wrong-This is a woman usually yelling at a man. Typically men don't know or understand what they did wrong. And many times they did nothing wrong. I...

Please Tell Me You Didn’t Say This in Your Profile!

I am always on match.com making over profiles and I see so many simple ways that one could improve their profile in just a few words. Here is a list of some of my favorite silly mistakes and how to clean them up quickly!   “I love my life”. Many profiles actually start with this sentence or slip it in somewhere along the way. Nothing says I hate my life more than writing that you love your life. I believe many do have a great life but when that is the opening line it just sounds so forced. It is especially funny when you click on their pictures and they are frowning in half of them.  “I want a successful, intelligent, confident” blah blah blah. This really says that you have dated just the opposite. Who doesn’t want those things? It is pretty obvious. No one is going to say I want a...

To Kiss or Not to Kiss?

I have heard women say they simply don't kiss on the first date. They are a complete different breed than those who are contemplating whether or not to have sex on the first date. Or at least that is what they want us to believe. I don't fully understand why someone wouldn't kiss on the first date but I respect that decision. However, I am going to share with you why I think it is a good idea. This only applies to kissing someone that you are attracted to. Under no circumstances do I think you should kiss someone that you are not into. In fact, I am pretty confident that if you aren't feeling it before the kiss you are only going to feel it less after the kiss. Kissing someone that you think is cute feels incredible. It is not going to cause a disease or even lead someone...

When Should We Become Facebook Friends

We are so curious to learn everything we can about our potential new partner as fast as possible. Facebook is likely the most telling of all. We want to see their photos, read their posts, calculate how many likes they have and even view their friends, groups and interests. I just took a look at my husband's facebook page to see what I could learn while trying to pretend that I didn't know him. First thing that I noticed was that his pictures are super creepy! The cover photo is an up close shot of him with one eye dilated. You can see every last blemish on his face. Let's face it we all look better with a little distance. His profile picture is him covered in dirt at the end of a tough mudder. I admit that is kind of hot but you can't really even tell what he...

It Could Be All Your Fault

Most people get angry when I suggest that it might be their fault that their last relationship ended. I understand completely. It is so much easier to blame someone else. But I am not the person that is going to coddle you or sit around and bash your ex lover. My sister recently attacked me when I tried to help her see the things that she did that may have damaged her last relationship. She actually said "you would never tell a client it was their fault!" I corrected her and said, "actually that is exactly what I do." If you are ready to face the truth keep reading. We often create exactly what we fear! This may sound a bit confusing but follow these examples. My neighbor Tommy is a 13 year old boy. He fears kids won't like him so he is always trying to brag and one up...

Have You Ever Had Sex Too Soon?

Women who have sex with men they are not in committed relationships with are often getting dumped and don't understand why! I am all for casual, great sex. But if you are looking for a commitment and can't understand what is going wrong this just might be it! I hear so many women say that they are afraid to ask for a commitment because they don't want to scare the guys away. But they send the guys running because these guys don't want a girl willing to accept casual sex! Basically their fear is losing the guy and that is exactly what they create in the end. Here are a few tips to try if you think having sex too soon is the real issue...

Life is Not Over Because You Were Dumped

I give mountains of advice daily to my amazing clients. But every now and then someone very close comes to me for help and it is a whole different story! I am not sure that the right person will read this but even if not it just might help someone else. We create and embellish everything that happens in our lives. I will share a personal experience to demonstrate this off the top. My son failed math. My initial story was something like this…OMG he is going to fail for the year, have to stay back, drop out and end up all screwed up. I could have called my support system and found a bunch of people to feed into this even more. My dad is always great for reinforcing my catastrophic stories. Then I wrote a different story…Ouch, my son failed math. He can work extra hard and pull that...

Five Things That Will Move You Closer to Finding Love!

Next time you are in a store start a conversation with a random person. It could be in the deli line, produce section or checkout line. Seriously sometimes we are standing next to someone for 15 minutes and we don’t even acknowledge their existence. Try it once and you will see it can make the moment more interesting for everyone. Once you realize how easy this is you will be more comfortable starting random conversations with more and more people! The more people you know the better your chances are that you will meet someone that you are interested in dating. Change your search criteria on match.com. If you could meet an amazing guy that has a super successful business but didn’t finish college 31 years ago would that really matter? Or perhaps there is a girl that considers her figure to be curvy. She might be in great shape yet...