20 Things to Ask Your Date?

If you are trying to think of what to say to a match.com prospect, speed dater or someone you are newly dating try these.  These questions are likely going to make you laugh, lead into more interesting topics and help you get to know each other better. Just be sure to have your answers prepared before you ask. What was the last thing you spent over $100 on? What was the last thing you resisted buying? What was the last thing you cooked that failed? What is messier your car, fridge or desk? What was the last thing you had to fix? When did you last visit the Emergency Room? Would you rather have a cleaning lady or a chef? When was the last time you fell or did something clumsy? Does anyone in the room remind you of someone? What did you have for breakfast today? What is your least favorite chore? Have you ever met anyone famous? Who is your celebrity...

Match to Mystery

Have you ever chatted with a guy on match and everything seemed to be going so well? You make a date for the upcoming weekend and you are really excited to have connected with what seems to be a normal guy. The weekend approaches and the guy doesn’t confirm the date. He actually seems to have disappeared off the face of the planet. You check his match profile and it says he is online now. What the heck happened? The only way to know exactly what happened is for us to sit down and dissect your beliefs, dating habits and behavior. But I certainly can speculate and shed some light on this for you. I have to warn you that this is another brutally honest blog. Please don’t be offended as I find my clients get better results when I’m brutally honest. Most likely he was talking to multiple women and...

You Are Clueless When it Comes to Internet Dating!

I can’t believe how many ridiculous mistakes I have seen as I have been making over online dating profiles. I could write a book on the subject but don’t really have the energy for it. So here are 5 quick tips as to how you just might be screwing up. I will write 5 more soon but please let me know which ones you have participated in. Your primary picture is dark, distant or blurry. If this is the case you will be overlooked right at the window shopping stage. You just sort of fade out when one is doing that quick search. You wrote a book for your bio. People want to get in and out when reading these things. No one wants to spend more than a minute on your profile. Write two quick paragraphs that are fun and catchy as opposed to posting a resume or life story! Your first...

Never Date this Type of Guy!

You have met the perfect man! He professes his love within days of contacting you. He has an amazing career, survived a big tragedy in life (typically the death of his wife), he adores children and always wanted a family, he buys you nice gifts and works hard to show you how close the two of you are. He also claims he rarely dates but there is just something so special about you. You finally believe that love might not just be a fantasy. You find it refreshing after all the jerks you have dated in the past. It seems a bit fast but you have rationalized that you deserve this and you believe that you are special! You avoid sharing too many details with your friends because you sense they will discourage you.  You feel a little uneasy but want this to work so badly that you fall into a...

Guys on Match MUST READ!

I am doing a little match.com mentoring for a lovely lady and am quite annoyed by these profiles I am reading. Guys if you could all just fix up your profiles based on my advice I would be able to help my beautiful client find love on match much quicker. Are you ready? STOP posting pictures of your children on match.com. Go right in to your profile and delete any pictures with your kids! Put those on your facebook page. Corny is crap! Don’t say you want to walk through the raindrops with me. My client is not looking to date an asexual poetry teacher here. She wants a man! No offense to the poetry teachers, I am sure many are very good guys. Sorry! But not such a man that you post pictures of yourself sweating or even worse with your shirt off. Trust me if you are cut we can tell...

Must I Respond to Every Match Email That I Get?

My answer is no! I hear this debate constantly. Surprisingly I hear more men whining and complaining about this then I do women. And I must say that a nagging, whining man is just not very sexy! So guys please let me put this in perspective for you! First of all so many of the guys literally write a 5000 word essay in that ‘about me’ section. Internet dating is so time consuming as it is. If you honestly expect us to read the long boring profile and then take the time to respond and tell you why we are not compatible it is just not going to happen. We are internet dating here. It is understood that you likely sent 25 messages to 25 different women. It is not as if we have some deep meaningful relationship that warrants any type of closure. No response means we are not interested. So...

Why Does Match Work For So Many But Not ME!!

Why Does Match Work for Some and Not Me? Most are going to tell you that this is because your profile looks like crap and it needs a makeover. Now for some this is a simple solution. But I think that the profile that you created is reflection of who you are, how you see yourself and what you believe you deserve. If you are wearing a sexy bikini in your picture (and you are not at the beach) you will likely attract men that are mostly thinking about having sex with you. If your profile shares too much about a past relationship that was awful you will most likely attract someone who is co-dependent and wants to rescue you (not very sexy after a while). If you are constantly bragging about yourself you will attract those who are vulnerable and naïve and believe whatever you bragged about was important. When in...