Dating Dads

Here are some quick tips for Dating Dads that may surprise you. Dating Dads usually come with an ex. Remember they are your ex and it is not your responsibility to drop everything to help out. The sooner you get your ex to depend on someone else the sooner you will have your freedom to live your life. When a new date asks you about your divorce never blame the ex. It is really not an appropriate discussion for a new date. Keep your answer simple, honest and change the subject. Don't use this as an opportunity to blast your ex. This will just make you look bitter and angry. Something that is very unsexy when you are trying to connect with a new lady in your life. Don't over apologize to your new partner. Sometimes single dads have some guilt issues. When you screw up you need to own it. And you...

Why We Stay in Miserable Relationships!

I was sitting in the sauna at LA fitness today when a woman asked me if I was the Date Doctor on 96.5 TIC. I told her I was and proceeded to hear about her friend’s marriage. Her friend is clearly miserable, knows the passion has died but can’t walk away. She asked me point blank why her friend stays. People stay in wrong relationships all the time! Why? These are the most common reasons why they stay. Feel free to add your experiences in the comments. She is afraid to be alone. Some women will express complete dread at the thought of starting over. My advice is to tell that friend to stop imaging being alone and start imaging having sex with some hot new boyfriend for the first time. Imagine kissing someone that you can’t keep your hands off. Imagine hearing the garage door open and not cringing because your...

Only Read if You are a Bitch or the Men Who Love Us!

I know there are many who claim men like bitchy women. And truth is that some men do like bitchy women. But I can assure you that the men that like the bitches are not the kind of guys we want to date. I don’t want to get into semantics over legal definitions here. We all need to agree that a bitch is NOT a woman with an opinion or a woman with confidence. A bitch is someone that is always looking for a reason to be miserable. If she doesn’t have anything to complain about she will find or create something. And she only looks forward to her man coming home so she can attempt to make his life as miserable as she is feeling. That is a BITCH!! And truth is I know many of them. I have witnessed friends and neighbors call their husbands at work and vent for 5...

I Can’t Stand Her Kids! Or is it Her Parenting?

Someone once asked me how soon their new love interest should meet their kids. I responded by saying, “it depends on how annoying your kids are". The truth is that if your kids are annoying, spoiled or bratty that new love interest just might run away very quickly! Dating someone who has kids can be a tremendous challenge and sometimes it is a deal breaker! But is it the kids or the parenting that is the real turn off? Here are a few things to think about… We all parent differently and very often it is a reflection of our own upbringing as well as that divorce guilt that influences just how we parent. This doesn’t mean it can’t be changed though. A little sensitivity can go a long way when talking about such a personal topic! Follow these quick tips and things will go much more smoothly. Meeting the kids is...

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Do you know anyone in one of those ambivalent relationships? You know the type that is always questioning whether or not they should stay or go. You would imagine that they get so exhausted trying to make a decision and really you and everyone that loves them knows exactly what they should do! Here is a little activity that might help you or “your friend” make that tough decision. Take a moment to imagine spending the rest of your life with this person as is. Imagine every holiday, and vacation includes this person with the traits that you find undesirable. Depending on where you are in life imagine this person co-parenting children and engaging in school events. Think about what you are feeling. Does dread come to mind? Are you thinking oh please this would be hell? Or are you thinking that it would be perfect and it makes you very happy?...

Never Ask Her… Why Are You Still Single?

We all have those friends that are single and searching for love. Now I know there are still those who enjoy being single and I fully respect their decision. But let’s talk about those friends that so want to find that perfect relationship. I know a lot about this because when I was in my thirties I was one of those ladies. I remember walking through the mall pushing the stroller of my one year old son. I had not yet accepted my new status of being a single mother. I was angry at the world. And let me tell you if I saw a woman with a wedding ring on, I hated her. And if there was a man carrying her bags I hated both of them. I had great difficulty hiding my anger and knew that being single was not something I was ready to face. I needed my...

Are You Guilty of Divorce?

Are You Guilty? Well someone has to initiate the divorce if the marriage is not repairable. And although I give a lot of credit to the person that was stronger, braver and ready to face reality first I realize that the guilt that comes along with this can be very hard to manage. I personally was on the other side of the divorce. I was the one on the receiving end. The one left to manage the feelings of rejection and failure. But guilt was not avoidable. Although I didn’t make the choice to terminate the marriage I still felt guilty enjoying life after divorce. I remember my first Christmas after the split. It had been just days shy of a year since we separated. We made it through one last Christmas together for the sake of our one year old son, who honestly would never even remember it. But this Christmas was...

Shocked about J.Lo and Marc Anthony’s Split?

Let me start by saying that I am shocked by how many people become so consumed by these Hollywood stories. People get divorced every day! In fact 50% of married couples get divorced. And that number increases based on the number of times one has been married. Jennifer Lopez is on her third marriage. 74% percent of third marriages fail. So odds are this relationship was never going to work. Many of you that followed this story have heard a million versions of why the marriage failed. And I am quite sure you have all selected one story to believe and run with. Perhaps Jennifer did pick her career over her marriage. Or perhaps this was a result of jealousy and constant fighting. In many marriages it is difficult to pinpoint the one specific thing that pushed the couple over the edge. Sources say they tried counseling and worked hard to...



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