How Can I Meet “Normal” Singles?

I know it can be frustrating trying to meet other singles. But on the bright side I can assure you that there are many! I know this because I have over 2000 singles in my database and I can’t imagine I have found every single guy and girl out there. I understand internet dating and speed dating aren’t for everyone. So I promise no dirty sales pitching in this blog. Many of you want it to happen naturally. Sometimes we have to push nature just a little bit. And that might mean just getting up and getting out the door. Here are my best tips to push the process and help you meet your match a little more naturally. Find the events-It is summer time and so many parks have great outdoor concerts http://www.elizabethpark.org/summer-concert-series-2013.htm. The local museums are starting to offer some great events too https://got5minutes.com/register/?event_id=222  . Another favorite that so many...

Are You Pickier Than an Eighth Grader?

Are You Pickier Than an Eighth Grader? My 13 year old son just shared a story with me about a time he went to ask a girl out at school. We will call her Annie. Matt recalled wearing his favorite T-Shirt and basketball sneakers and remembers taking extra time to look his best that morning. He arrived to school with all the anticipation of seeing Annie and asking her out. Annie chose a thick, bright pink belt to wear on this day (she apparently knew he was going to ask her out). Matthew thought the belt was awful and I quote him as saying “I was thinking ewwwww, I am not going out with a girl that wears that.” I found the story humorous and appreciated that he shared so much with me. I wondered if Annie was thinking the belt was the deal breaker. Perhaps she regretted it the whole...

Why We Stay in Miserable Relationships!

I was sitting in the sauna at LA fitness today when a woman asked me if I was the Date Doctor on 96.5 TIC. I told her I was and proceeded to hear about her friend’s marriage. Her friend is clearly miserable, knows the passion has died but can’t walk away. She asked me point blank why her friend stays. People stay in wrong relationships all the time! Why? These are the most common reasons why they stay. Feel free to add your experiences in the comments. She is afraid to be alone. Some women will express complete dread at the thought of starting over. My advice is to tell that friend to stop imaging being alone and start imaging having sex with some hot new boyfriend for the first time. Imagine kissing someone that you can’t keep your hands off. Imagine hearing the garage door open and not cringing because your...

Opposites Attract But Will They Drive Each Other Nuts?

Opposites can attract. Seriously, I don’t want a guy that shares my interests! Anyone that wants to needle point, scrap book or take a Zumba class is just not the guy’s guy that I desire! You don’t need shared interests, aligned political views or even like the same TV shows! In fact I love lying in bed watching Parenthood while my husband is in the den watching hockey. But not all opposites mesh quite so well! Here are a few that don’t and some tips to make it work! Opposite spending habits. When you have a compulsive shopaholic dating a penny pincher it will often lead to stress, arguments and potential lies. I remember my mother used to tell my father that every outfit she bought was 1/2 the price that it really was. My Dad picked up on this began doubling the price she told him. At that point my...

I Love You? Or Not?

Some men just don’t say it! I can give you a few reasons why but I am not sure how much it matters? They associate “love” with a negative feeling or experience. The last woman they loved may have cheated, lied, sexually neglected or emasculated them. They have a belief that “love” entraps them into commitments that they are not ready to make. They simply don’t love you and are just sticking around because the sex is good and they haven’t found anything better. They grew up in a house where the word “love” was taboo. They believe that if they don’t say the words “I love you” they are protected from ever experiencing the emotions and negative experiences that come with being in love. To The Women Dating These Guys: Walk away ladies. Unless you grew up in a home where love was taboo or any of the above excuses apply to you. Being with a...

You Are Clueless When it Comes to Internet Dating!

I can’t believe how many ridiculous mistakes I have seen as I have been making over online dating profiles. I could write a book on the subject but don’t really have the energy for it. So here are 5 quick tips as to how you just might be screwing up. I will write 5 more soon but please let me know which ones you have participated in. Your primary picture is dark, distant or blurry. If this is the case you will be overlooked right at the window shopping stage. You just sort of fade out when one is doing that quick search. You wrote a book for your bio. People want to get in and out when reading these things. No one wants to spend more than a minute on your profile. Write two quick paragraphs that are fun and catchy as opposed to posting a resume or life story! Your first...

I Am Curvy, Slender and Athletic with the Potential to Get Fat

If these internet dating sites allowed me to select multiple body types on my profile I would check at least the three in this title. Would you write to me? Would you even click my profile if that was the first thing you read? This whole “body type” selection question is the most difficult part for both sides of the dating sites. The one writing their profile wants to catch someone’s attention without being dishonest. The one browsing through the profiles is always wondering how honest the person is with that question. It is not always about dishonesty. There are four reasons why people are inaccurate. 1.  The slightly overweight person is feeling empowered as they write that profile. They feel as though they have taken a giant leap to find love. They actually believe that by the time they get to a date they will have lost those few extra pounds...

Is Your Teenager Having Sex?

I just watched an episode of Parenthood in which the teenager revealed to her mother that she was having sex. I would like to think that the reaction of the mother was just a case of poor script writing. But then I had to question whether or not all or even any parents react this way. To sum the scene up quickly, Haddie is a senior in high school and in love with her very sweet boyfriend. When she told her mother (who already knew it was happening) her mother’s face was taken over by a look of shame, she stumbled on her words and finally said “I just have no idea what to say.” She then asked her daughter a few questions about being pressured and using protection. I wonder if the intent of the writers was to offer an example of how a mother might react. I think...

To Call or Not To Call?

I am constantly hearing this question about whether or not a girl should call a guy and under what circumstances this is acceptable. 1. It is true that guys like to pursue women. These are the rules and although I don’t make them I sure do understand them. 2. It is true that if a guy is really into you and really likes you that he will call. The only exception is that he may have some kind of emotional or intimacy issues that hold him back. If that is the case then better to find out now. 3. There are guys that will have a great time on a date with you. They may laugh a lot, compliment you and even kiss you goodnight. But at the end of the date they just don’t think you are the one. Women are different. We can not possibly pretend to be interested in a guy...

Are You Really Fed Up With Being Single? Start Here!

People make lasting and dramatic changes in their lives when they become so fed up they can’t stand it anymore. We see this with folks who are fat or out of shape. We also see it with those who hate their careers. My husband actually started personal training about 3 months ago and gave up eating any processed carbohydrates. He looks and feels like a different man! I personally started my own business to escape working a 9 to 5 job that I hated! Many others have had similar experiences when they too have become fed up. So now I want to ask you a question… Are you fed up with being single? Are you so sick of waiting for a date to call? Are you tired of being blown off? Do you just want to find someone to love and enjoy life with? If you answered yes to any of these questions you are well...