20 Things to Ask Your Date?

If you are trying to think of what to say to a match.com prospect, speed dater or someone you are newly dating try these.  These questions are likely going to make you laugh, lead into more interesting topics and help you get to know each other better. Just be sure to have your answers prepared before you ask. What was the last thing you spent over $100 on? What was the last thing you resisted buying? What was the last thing you cooked that failed? What is messier your car, fridge or desk? What was the last thing you had to fix? When did you last visit the Emergency Room? Would you rather have a cleaning lady or a chef? When was the last time you fell or did something clumsy? Does anyone in the room remind you of someone? What did you have for breakfast today? What is your least favorite chore? Have you ever met anyone famous? Who is your celebrity...

Five Things That Will Move You Closer to Finding Love!

Next time you are in a store start a conversation with a random person. It could be in the deli line, produce section or checkout line. Seriously sometimes we are standing next to someone for 15 minutes and we don’t even acknowledge their existence. Try it once and you will see it can make the moment more interesting for everyone. Once you realize how easy this is you will be more comfortable starting random conversations with more and more people! The more people you know the better your chances are that you will meet someone that you are interested in dating. Change your search criteria on match.com. If you could meet an amazing guy that has a super successful business but didn’t finish college 31 years ago would that really matter? Or perhaps there is a girl that considers her figure to be curvy. She might be in great shape yet...

What To Ask Your Date Besides “What are Your Hobbies?” and “What Do You Do For Work”?

Whether you are in an early match.com chat, on a live 5 minute speed date or perhaps just out at a bar these questions will come in handy. Most of us dread the hobby question because quite frankly the average person doesn’t have many amazing hobbies. Most of us work, have kids and maybe hit the gym a couple of days a week. But those aren’t really hobbies. The other question we hate is about our careers. Many people don’t love their jobs and find it boring to talk about. So here are a few questions to add to that database in your mind that will generate a stimulating conversation. What was the best part of your day? Who is the last person that made you laugh? What was the last clothing item you bought? What is the oldest thing in your freezer? What is your least favorite household chore? Who is your celebrity lookalike? What is your...

Back to School Time…Is Your Teen Dating?

Your teen age daughter walks in the door with tears in her eyes. You look at her and instantly know she was dumped by her boyfriend of seven weeks. You got such joy over their shared facebook posts about being in love. You gloated over how she lit up when he would send her a text message and you enjoyed chatting with your sister about how cute their love life was. But this was different, she was not smiling and tears were streaming down her face. Mother’s typically feel every emotion their child has and this seems to be a big one. What do you do? What is the best way to react in such a situation? I understand that many of you feel the need to coddle your child and wipe their tears. You will struggle to remember and share every detail of your first heartbreak in an effort to show...

I Am Curvy, Slender and Athletic with the Potential to Get Fat

If these internet dating sites allowed me to select multiple body types on my profile I would check at least the three in this title. Would you write to me? Would you even click my profile if that was the first thing you read? This whole “body type” selection question is the most difficult part for both sides of the dating sites. The one writing their profile wants to catch someone’s attention without being dishonest. The one browsing through the profiles is always wondering how honest the person is with that question. It is not always about dishonesty. There are four reasons why people are inaccurate. 1.  The slightly overweight person is feeling empowered as they write that profile. They feel as though they have taken a giant leap to find love. They actually believe that by the time they get to a date they will have lost those few extra pounds...

I Don’t Want a Penpal!

It happens all the time! You meet someone that seems great on match.com or whatever site you select. You begin to email each other and you sense you have a lot in common. The emails get longer and longer and you begin to get bored! You rush through the message just to see if he ends it with asking you out and he doesn’t. If you just wanted a penpal you could date a prisoner or someone across the country. But this time you find someone within 20 miles of you and he doesn’t seem to want to come out of the computer. Here is my remedy… Before you even start chatting with someone take a good look at their profile and not just the pictures. If someone has a profile that drags on and on I disqualify that person. If you are bored in just reading their profile I can assure...

Why Wear the Wedding Ring?

I admit it I don’t like wearing my wedding ring. I could make up some reasons but truth is I just don’t like jewelry. I wear earrings and random necklaces that would be considered costume jewelry. 12 years ago my husband and I visited North Hampton, MA and I selected a ring for a few hundred dollars. It is a cool artsy ring that I still love. And when we go out on a date (which is rare) I always put it on. My husband has huge hands (those who have read my others blogs know I don’t date guys with small hands). He doesn’t like jewelry and quite honestly a ring on those sausage fingers would look pretty gross! So most of the time Erik and I are ringless! Ancient Romans believed that you wear the ring on the 4th left finger because that vein goes straight to the heart....

Ever Date This Type of Guy?

Ladies Have you Ever Dated a Guy Who… Asks you out but seems to be completely unavailable between dates? Invites you to meet him at a restaurant but isn’t clear as to whether it means dinner or drinks? Says he will call you Friday to confirm the date and when you give in and text him on Saturday he acts like it was already confirmed?  Seems interested but the relationship doesn’t seem to be escalating? If you find yourself dating this ambivalent type of guy I imagine you are pretty annoyed! You are excited that he offers to call a day ahead to confirm the date and wait anxiously for the call. Down deep you wonder why he can’t just text or say hello to you prior to the confirmation but you have rationalized this in your head. You create some ridiculous notion that he is busy with the kids or taking it slow. Friday...

Why Does Match Work For So Many But Not ME!!

Why Does Match Work for Some and Not Me? Most are going to tell you that this is because your profile looks like crap and it needs a makeover. Now for some this is a simple solution. But I think that the profile that you created is reflection of who you are, how you see yourself and what you believe you deserve. If you are wearing a sexy bikini in your picture (and you are not at the beach) you will likely attract men that are mostly thinking about having sex with you. If your profile shares too much about a past relationship that was awful you will most likely attract someone who is co-dependent and wants to rescue you (not very sexy after a while). If you are constantly bragging about yourself you will attract those who are vulnerable and naïve and believe whatever you bragged about was important. When in...

Flowers on the First Date?

Yes it is true that we love when guys do things to make us feel special! But is buying flowers on the first date a good idea? Here is my argument as to why it is simply a bad idea. We love getting flowers because it makes us feel special. But if you are buying flowers for me and you haven’t even met me it is a little weird. Do you just buy flowers for every girl you take out on a first date? If that is the case then this bouquet of roses will not make me feel special. In fact, I just might give them back to you at the end of the date so you can recycle them and give them to your date tomorrow night. It is awkward! Especially if we are meeting in a restaurant. I am stuck holding this bouquet of flowers. Even worse if it...



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