Back to School Time…Is Your Teen Dating?

Your teen age daughter walks in the door with tears in her eyes. You look at her and instantly know she was dumped by her boyfriend of seven weeks. You got such joy over their shared facebook posts about being in love. You gloated over how she lit up when he would send her a text message and you enjoyed chatting with your sister about how cute their love life was. But this was different, she was not smiling and tears were streaming down her face. Mother’s typically feel every emotion their child has and this seems to be a big one. What do you do? What is the best way to react in such a situation? I understand that many of you feel the need to coddle your child and wipe their tears. You will struggle to remember and share every detail of your first heartbreak in an effort to show...

What I learned in High School about Valentines Day!

Stoughton High School back in the 80’s holds both good and bad memories for me. The worst came from that dreaded February 14! Some brilliant school personnel or PTO mom came up with the idea to have these young teens purchase  roses to be delivered to someone they had a crush on. We all waited patiently in or boring classes for the knock on the door. A student would enter the room with a big white box of roses. She would eagerly call out the names of the girls who received a rose and each would run up blushing and smiling as they read who it was from. In all 4 years of high school I never got up to claim that rose. First let me tell you this whole concept is ridiculous! Why would the school even consider trying to teach these students that crushes, dating and love are valuable...

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Do you know anyone in one of those ambivalent relationships? You know the type that is always questioning whether or not they should stay or go. You would imagine that they get so exhausted trying to make a decision and really you and everyone that loves them knows exactly what they should do! Here is a little activity that might help you or “your friend” make that tough decision. Take a moment to imagine spending the rest of your life with this person as is. Imagine every holiday, and vacation includes this person with the traits that you find undesirable. Depending on where you are in life imagine this person co-parenting children and engaging in school events. Think about what you are feeling. Does dread come to mind? Are you thinking oh please this would be hell? Or are you thinking that it would be perfect and it makes you very happy?...