Why Wear the Wedding Ring?

I admit it I don’t like wearing my wedding ring. I could make up some reasons but truth is I just don’t like jewelry. I wear earrings and random necklaces that would be considered costume jewelry. 12 years ago my husband and I visited North Hampton, MA and I selected a ring for a few hundred dollars. It is a cool artsy ring that I still love. And when we go out on a date (which is rare) I always put it on. My husband has huge hands (those who have read my others blogs know I don’t date guys with small hands). He doesn’t like jewelry and quite honestly a ring on those sausage fingers would look pretty gross! So most of the time Erik and I are ringless! Ancient Romans believed that you wear the ring on the 4th left finger because that vein goes straight to the heart....

It’s Not Complicated, You’ve Been Partially Dumped!

What do I mean by a partially dumped? Well there are 2 types. The most obvious type is when a committed relationship is terminated but the sexual encounters continue. And the less obvious situation is when the physical attraction has died but you still spend time together. Both recipes for disaster, both miserable and both will unlikely ever bring you back to where you once were. Let’s dissect this sexual relationship first! You were once in love, connected with each other every day, your friends knew you as a couple and you knew exactly where the relationship stood. Why did things have to change? Basically because he is wondering what other options are out there. For whatever reason the relationship holds no future but the sex is good. Good sex however is not enough to ensure everlasting love! But it sure is hard to walk away from. So you are broken...

I Can’t Get Over Him?

You pass his car on the street and your stomach turns to knots, you wake up in the morning and your heart sinks when there is no text message waiting on your phone from him and you have convinced yourself never to date again. It is called a heart break and I have a little news flash for you…people get over this day after day. Sure I understand you are a little special and your situation was somehow a little worse. Trust me I have been through it a million times. First thing you need to realize is that this is only as awful as you convince yourself! For some reason so many people resist believing me on this one but it is so very true! If you walk around day and night saying to yourself “I will never get over this” or “I can’t deal with the pain I am...

Which Came First… You Became Too Needy or He Became a Jerk?

Let me paint the perfect picture of how a girl comes to think she is too needy. Girl meets a great guy! They start dating. He calls and texts every day. They have sex, spend nights together, meet each other’s friends and everything is perfect. Suddenly the guy changes his behavior. The time between text messages starts to increase rapidly. He doesn’t commit to plans with you as quickly as he used to and your consistent date nights become inconsistent. You start to feel that surge of panic. And you ask yourself this ridiculous question…Am I too needy? You begin to rationalize that things progressed quickly and perhaps he just needs a little space. You fight the urge to follow up an unanswered text with a phone call and convince yourself you are being too needy. You seek advice from friends and only listen to those who are convincing you that...

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Do you know anyone in one of those ambivalent relationships? You know the type that is always questioning whether or not they should stay or go. You would imagine that they get so exhausted trying to make a decision and really you and everyone that loves them knows exactly what they should do! Here is a little activity that might help you or “your friend” make that tough decision. Take a moment to imagine spending the rest of your life with this person as is. Imagine every holiday, and vacation includes this person with the traits that you find undesirable. Depending on where you are in life imagine this person co-parenting children and engaging in school events. Think about what you are feeling. Does dread come to mind? Are you thinking oh please this would be hell? Or are you thinking that it would be perfect and it makes you very happy?...

How Can Making Dinner Be So Wrong?

So every once in a while (and I mean once in a while) Erik has this brilliant idea to make dinner. He opens up a recipe book, goes to the grocery store and creates an amazing meal for the family. Now rationally I know that I am very lucky to have a husband that helps out like this and takes the burden off of me once in a while. But for some reason it never plays out quite like this. I begin getting defensive. I feel as if he is trying to say that I am not a good enough wife and should have already made such a delicious meal. I do cook but it is rare that I pull open a recipe book like he does. I am great with Mexican night, throwing some burgers on the grill and easy chicken and rice dishes. My meals are edible and no...

Am I a Jerk or a Stud?

Question for The Date Doctor: I had a date 3 weeks ago with a girl that I like. Our schedules were tricky and our next date is to be this weekend. In the past week I met another the girl that has knocked my socks off. Everything was just perfect and I want to pursue this. I can't get her off my mind and would love to be going out with her this weekend. But I worry about hurting the other girl and to complicate things my neighbor set us up. I think she was really looking forward to our date as her life is quite hectic. Do I do the right thing and take her out and miss a chance to go out with this new love interest of mine? Ok Mr. Stud, I hate to sound too harsh but I am speaking for all women when I respond to this...

The Turkey Dump

College kids call Thanksgiving Break the "turkey dump" as they return home for the holidays and break up with their hometown girlfriend to enjoy all college has to offer. Also some other couples on the verge of breaking up try to get that break up in before having to deal with the whole holiday gift exchange. While others hang on just to get through that last holiday together because they think that will be a better time. Whenever the dumping or being dumped actually happens this little quiz will help get you through. 1. With all the new technology folks are wondering what is the proper way to break up? a. New websites are available to help you (Idump4u.com or breakupemail.com) b. Texting ...

Got Dumped?

Ever dated a someone that just started treating you like crap because they were hoping you would do the break up? Or perhaps you just started treating someone poorly because you couldn't seem to fiigure out how to end that relationship? Whatever the situation is we have all been dumped or dumped someone at some point. It stings like a bee and hurts so badly for a few days, ok sometimes even weeks! I am not talking about long term marriages but those relationships that linger on for many months and seem to get worse and worse. We rationalize staying, hoping it will get better. And we end up dumped and needing to move on. Here are some tips on how to get over this and get over it fast! 1. Come on, there are a million things that this person did that drove you nuts! Everytime you think of a...