Life is Not Over Because You Were Dumped

I give mountains of advice daily to my amazing clients. But every now and then someone very close comes to me for help and it is a whole different story! I am not sure that the right person will read this but even if not it just might help someone else. We create and embellish everything that happens in our lives. I will share a personal experience to demonstrate this off the top. My son failed math. My initial story was something like this…OMG he is going to fail for the year, have to stay back, drop out and end up all screwed up. I could have called my support system and found a bunch of people to feed into this even more. My dad is always great for reinforcing my catastrophic stories. Then I wrote a different story…Ouch, my son failed math. He can work extra hard and pull that...

You Might be Crazy?

I know this may offend many women but I am willing to take the risk. We often hear guys say things like: She’s nuts. They are all crazy you just need to find the crazy you can deal with. She is hot until she opens her mouth. These are the common things that most men complain about. So my challenge to the ladies is to think about whether or not you are nuts. I really don’t like the words “nuts” and “crazy” but because these are the words so many guys use I think we need to stick with them. Here of some examples of what men would qualify as nuts. Jill asks her husband how her new jeans look. He simply replies “fine”. Jill yells at him and gets upset that he didn’t offer her more of a reaction. Imagine if her husband told her that he really thought the jeans made her look...

My One and Only One Night Stand

Sex Too Soon! I am all for great sex. And ladies if you can have a casual fling and feel no emotional attachment, rejection issues or loneliness go for it. But be honest with yourself. Are you having sex because you think it is all you can get? Are you having sex because you believe if you are good he will stick around? Or are you really just in it for the sex and have no other needs? Personally I think the majority of women have sex because they want more. I am going to share the one story where I had sex too soon. Yes it is true there was only one. I was in high school and chased Jimmy for my entire high school career. I was careful never to actually have sex with him. My mother was smart to put the fear of STD’s and pregnancy in my head the...

Why We Stay in Miserable Relationships!

I was sitting in the sauna at LA fitness today when a woman asked me if I was the Date Doctor on 96.5 TIC. I told her I was and proceeded to hear about her friend’s marriage. Her friend is clearly miserable, knows the passion has died but can’t walk away. She asked me point blank why her friend stays. People stay in wrong relationships all the time! Why? These are the most common reasons why they stay. Feel free to add your experiences in the comments. She is afraid to be alone. Some women will express complete dread at the thought of starting over. My advice is to tell that friend to stop imaging being alone and start imaging having sex with some hot new boyfriend for the first time. Imagine kissing someone that you can’t keep your hands off. Imagine hearing the garage door open and not cringing because your...

Opposites Attract But Will They Drive Each Other Nuts?

Opposites can attract. Seriously, I don’t want a guy that shares my interests! Anyone that wants to needle point, scrap book or take a Zumba class is just not the guy’s guy that I desire! You don’t need shared interests, aligned political views or even like the same TV shows! In fact I love lying in bed watching Parenthood while my husband is in the den watching hockey. But not all opposites mesh quite so well! Here are a few that don’t and some tips to make it work! Opposite spending habits. When you have a compulsive shopaholic dating a penny pincher it will often lead to stress, arguments and potential lies. I remember my mother used to tell my father that every outfit she bought was 1/2 the price that it really was. My Dad picked up on this began doubling the price she told him. At that point my...

I Love You? Or Not?

Some men just don’t say it! I can give you a few reasons why but I am not sure how much it matters? They associate “love” with a negative feeling or experience. The last woman they loved may have cheated, lied, sexually neglected or emasculated them. They have a belief that “love” entraps them into commitments that they are not ready to make. They simply don’t love you and are just sticking around because the sex is good and they haven’t found anything better. They grew up in a house where the word “love” was taboo. They believe that if they don’t say the words “I love you” they are protected from ever experiencing the emotions and negative experiences that come with being in love. To The Women Dating These Guys: Walk away ladies. Unless you grew up in a home where love was taboo or any of the above excuses apply to you. Being with a...

Are You Really Fed Up With Being Single? Start Here!

People make lasting and dramatic changes in their lives when they become so fed up they can’t stand it anymore. We see this with folks who are fat or out of shape. We also see it with those who hate their careers. My husband actually started personal training about 3 months ago and gave up eating any processed carbohydrates. He looks and feels like a different man! I personally started my own business to escape working a 9 to 5 job that I hated! Many others have had similar experiences when they too have become fed up. So now I want to ask you a question… Are you fed up with being single? Are you so sick of waiting for a date to call? Are you tired of being blown off? Do you just want to find someone to love and enjoy life with? If you answered yes to any of these questions you are well...