Do you believe everyone has a soul mate?
When you first start dating someone you can’t possibly see through to their soul. You see nothing more than a shell with some fantasies about what the soul may contain. To clarify the word “soul” I looked it up on dictionary.com and found multiple definitions. But what I gathered was it is the feelings, thoughts and actions of people or the emotional part of a person. To me that means everything except the outer exterior. I call that the shell. Initially we fall for the shell, the body, the smile, the face and even the clothes and style of the person we see. We basically become what I will call shell mates in the beginning of any relationship.
As time passes something happens to that shell. It changes shape, loses hair, wrinkles among many other things. The connection that those 2 shell mates once had might also change form and fade away. That is why it is so important to scratch the surface or crack the shell to see what is inside.
When you do crack this shell you will see the soul, the emotional part of the person. This is the part that doesn’t have to deteriorate like the shell. In fact, the soul can improve over years and we actually have a tremendous amount of control over what happens to our souls!
So when you become soul mates with someone and fall in love with the emotional part of this person the love is so much stronger. I have seen many super attractive couples date for about 3 months. Everyone talks about what a gorgeous couple they are and how beautiful their babies would be. Then to everyone’s shock they break up. In most cases the shell mates never fell in love with each others souls.
It seems that physically attractive people have far more opportunities to have multiple shell mates. But still many attractive people remain single. Someone less physically attractive may have less shell mates but if their soul is desirable they can find love while avoiding so many of the shell mate relationships. Everyone should do what they can to look and feel their best! But don’t neglect the emotional side of yourself. Be sure to have plenty of interests, passions and friends because those are the things that will make your souls more attractive and will help you to sustain a healthy and happy relationship over time.