Make a Resolution to Find Love in 2011
Over the past year I have heard many singles making excuses for being single. Here are just a few examples:
1. All guys are jerks (sorry guys but that false belief is quite popular)
2. I am too fat, old, busy, etc…
3. I am too picky
4. All the good ones are taken
These are nothing more than negative beliefs that folks are convincing themselves to be true. I am going to challenge all singles to make a resolution to find love in 2011. I have 3 important steps for you to follow. Now I can’t guarantee that you will automatically find love if you follow these steps, but I can guarantee that if you don’t your chances will decrease significantly. Are you ready…
Step 1. Self Awareness-Look at the qualities in yourself that you could improve. You then need to accept these as areas to change or improve. Whether you are a workaholic, overweight or outdated in your style you need to be willing to address these issues and look and feel your best. Other folks have more behavioral types of challenges like anger, drama or fears. Whatever the issue may be it is now time to address it. Don’t just run out and buy that new outfit to mask the issue (unless of course the issue is outdated style)! Take that money and use it to get some coaching in whatever area you need to grow.
Step 2. Change your outlook and beliefs about dating. If you are using any of the earlier excuses for staying single, you need to eliminate all of them. Write those excuses down on a piece of paper and then rip it up, burn it or flush it down the toilet. Repeat these steps over and over if you need to. Now it is time to start replacing them with more positive thoughts. If you continually convinced yourself that you were unlovable, you need to look in a mirror and say out loud, “I am lovable”. It may seem goofy at first but it is time you started believing more positive things about finding love. It is amazing how powerful your thoughts can be.
Step 3. Quite simply now that your beliefs have changed you need to expose yourself to other singles. Come to a speed dating event (www.got5minutes.com) we have so many coming up. Join a meetup group (http://www.meetup.com/CT-Singles-looking-for-a-Match/) or try one of the many online dating sites. If you need help with your profile, got5minutes.com is now offering coaching sessions to singles.
I know first hand folks that this works! I remember 10 years ago having all these negative thoughts. I had just separated from my first husband and convinced myself that I would never find love again. Until one day I passed by a mirror and West Farms Mall and did not like what I saw. I made a decision at that moment to change my life. I changed my look, my beliefs and my life. Shortly after that day I met Erik on an internet dating site. 10 years later we are still happily married. Give it a try folks and you will be surprised!