Healing That Burn
How to Get Over It!
When your hand gets burned banana peels and egg whites just might help with the healing process. But when your heart gets burned that is a whole different story. If you really want to heal that broken heart then it is time to do just that!
Remember we control what we think. So if you spend too much time thinking about how burned you got, how angry you are at the burner and convincing yourself that you will never get over this then it is time to change your thoughts. Remember no one is holding a gun to your head telling you that you must think these miserable thoughts. We choose to think them and are so convincing that we actually believe them. Now take those negative beliefs, write them down on a piece of paper and burn them (literally)! If you still have the thoughts flush those ashes down the toilet and repeat the process again and again. I know this may seem like a lot of effort but trust me, once you take control over your thoughts your life will become so much easier!
I realize that change takes time and those thoughts will pop up again from time to time to remind you that they still exist. Don’t get discouraged just replace those thoughts with more positive ones. For example, if you keep thinking that all men are jerks you need to replace that the thought with…I am going to meet a nice guy. Again this may seem like a lot of effort but it is far less exhausting then convincing yourself day and night that you are destined to be a victim in all of your relationships.
Lastly, it drives me nuts when I see a match.com profile that says something negative. And believe me I see this all of the time. One recently started off by saying… “If you are the type of guy that doesn’t call when you say you will then don’t waste my time.” It is time to stop wearing your heartache like a badge. Any man reading that is only going to see you as a drama queen and someone that puts up with crap. And trust me the only guys that will respond are those that won’t call.
Life is too short to waste time being burned for very long. Learn from the mistake, figure out what you could do differently and don’t let one burn stop you from enjoying life.