Jaimy’s Blog

Thanks For Being an A**hole to My Son

Blending families and step parenting can be a nightmare. I know this first hand. When my son was 21 months old I met Erik on match.com. He was just 28 years old and wasn’t even thinking about a family yet. But for some crazy reason he decided to respond to my match message. He knew I was 5 years older than him and that I had a young son. That didn’t stop him. We began dating and eventually married. I have so many precious memories of Erik and Matt. Matt used to call him Guck because he couldn’t say Erik. We still hear that name today. I remember him taking Matt to see the Spongebob movie. We were just dating at the time and I was so surprised he didn’t ask me for money. One night he showed up at my condo with a gold fish. Matt was obsessed with Elmo...

Moms and Men!

Singles Moms-I love that you adore your kids, they are your top priority and you are a terrific mother. But please ladies this doesn't need to be the first thing you say in your match profiles. It basically screams that you could be one of those moms who feels guilty whenever you aren't doing something for your kids. This sound a little weak and not very sexy. Dating Moms-Don't let your kids decide who you date. If your 8 year old hates the guy you bring home that is okay. Often young kids feel threatened by a new guy in the picture. Don't introduce them too early and validate their feelings. But if you know the guy is a good one it is best to trust yourself and make your own decisions. Moms in Committed Relationships-The biggest argument these couples have is about parenting. So often mothers try to protect their kids...

Forget the Chocolate and Flowers this Mother’s Day

Flowers die in a couple of days and chocolate just makes us feel fat. There are much better ways to show your wife how special she is on Mother's Day. Something more creative than a traditional gift is going to show her that you put a little extra thought into it this year. 1. Nothing decreases stress more than a clean house. Cost starts at $100 and you can get a service like LETS Sparkle to come in and clean everything. Imagine your wife's surprise when she walks in the door and the floors are shining, the bathroom is sparkling and the carpets are vacuumed. She will have nothing to do except to relax.  Depending on how many children you have this should last longer than a bouquet of flowers. 2. Many moms hesitate to treat themselves. Not all! I am well aware of the moms who won't hesitate to have their...

Teens, Tweens and Online Predators

We constantly hear that we need to monitor what our children are doing online. It is true but not as easy as it sounds. The reason this is so difficult is because our kids are far more knowledgeable about the latest technology and applications than we are. In fact many of these platforms market directly to the tween and teen population. We know to follow them on facebook, Instagram and twitter but what about Whisper, kik, snapchat and askfm? Many of us have never heard of these platforms but I am quite sure your kids have. Beyond monitoring their activity it is important to talk to your children about what is going on with these sites. Help them to understand that any online platform for a teenager is a pedophile playground. Explain to your kids the signs. This is the toughest one as there are very few signs. Pedophiles are professionals when...

Frequently Asked Questions Regarding “3 Blind Dates”

1. Where do I recruit my clients? Craigslist (KIDDING)! I have been in business for 11 years and have database of over 2000 singles at my disposal, and the list grows bigger every day. Many singles found me from listening 96.5 TIC with Damon Scott. There are several meetup groups that promote my company. I host a few of these groups myself and even a few I don’t host promote my events. Our Facebook page is home to over 2,000 members and I am frequently providing our members with special discounts for events! To be honest, the number one way I recruit is through word of mouth. We typically host 1 or 2 singles events each week and our happy customers share their experience with their social circle. 2. How do you select my matches? It starts with my review of your deal breakers in your application. If I don’t have...

How Would You Rate Your Prom?

With all of these “promposals” popping up on the news I have to ask: How Would You Rate Your Prom? Prom for me was a big dramafest. I had an on again off again boyfriend for about a year named Jimmy. I think in his mind it was off and in my desperation I convinced myself it was on. I asked him to the prom because I thought that was a safe way to lock him in to seeing me again. Boy was I wrong, trust me when I say it didn’t work. Some background information for you: Jimmy did not go to my high school so I rarely saw him. In fact I don’t think he went to any school. He had a job full time fixing cars at the age of 16. I never met his family because he did not live with them. He stayed in the basement of...

How Divorced Are You?

New divorcees proudly wave their court document and chant their final divorce date. It is a huge accomplishment that many celebrate with divorce parties. Some wear T-Shirts with slogans like “The #1 Cause of Divorce is Marriage” or “Free at Last”. But are these people really divorced? Although the court process is exhausting and can be very drawn out it is actually the easier part. Making the necessary changes to your life is what really makes it over. Here are some things to consider when moving on.   Does your ex still have the freedom to enter your home without knocking or unannounced? Many women will rationalize that it was their shared house and they are just used to that. Another common excuse is that the kids like when their dad pops over. The kid “excuse” can usually guilt us into anything.  You are divorced and need to set some clear boundaries. You...

What Do You Lead With?

Think about your last first date. Try to remember the initial conversations that the two of you had that evening. Was it about you and your kids or was it about your date and his career? Perhaps it quickly went to a sexually flirtatious conversation. Whatever it was there is likely a pattern. Dig a little further back and think about what you have led with on other dates. And if you have a history of bad or disappointing first dates it might be time to take a look at what you lead with. Here are some typical examples of what singles might lead with on a first date and what this really says about you. You kids-When you are a single parent and dating it is tricky. But if you start the dating chatter with stories about your kids you are sending a fast message. Likely you feel some guilt...