Jaimy’s Blog

You Are More Than Your Biggest Issue

It is not about when you share it is about how you share! We all have things that are wonderful about our lives. Things we are excited to share with our new date. We also have the things that might be perceived as a challenge. These are the things that we fear our date might reject! Many people have asked me how and when to share these things…When to share about their physical health issues, mental health issues, challenging child, recovery, unstable ex, financial issues, medication, past drama, etc…My answer is always the same! It is not when but how you share it. I can demonstrate this best by sharing one of my potentially perceived challenges. The illness is real. The actual date scenarios are just examples of how I might handle it. But as many of you know I am married and did not discover this health issue until many years...

Who Will Succeed on the Facebook Dating Platform?

If you meet the below criteria the likelihood of you finding love on the facebook dating platform will only improve. You are a single person that understands that the military, widowed, doctor posing for a picture with his stethoscope is nothing but a scam. The flawless, gorgeous woman with perfect cleavage who lives 500 miles away is fake. If you are still having trouble spotting a fake profile just never send money to anyone.   You are a single person who is willing to admit that you are doing something wrong in the dating arena. Are you too clingy, emotionally guarded, having sex too soon, annoying or not at your physical best? Be honest with yourself, figure it out and fix it. And if you are one of those complaining that these are all hook up sites you might want to take a look at your profile, the messages being sent...

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My Thanksgiving Date

The first Thanksgiving after my divorce was a tough one. Here I was with a 2 year old little boy and everything around us was closed. I could see neighbors climbing into their cars with pies and packages in their hands as they headed to see loved ones. This was painful for me to watch. My mother died a few year earlier, my dad remarried and moved south with his new wife and my sister was with her in-laws who apparently passed judgement on my recent divorce. I was lucky enough to have an invite to a friend's house later that evening but passing the time until 6:oo PM seemed endless. I remember taking my little 2 year old son to Blockbuster because it was the only place opened. It was actually quite crowded, My son loved to look at all the movie covers and I was interested in watching all the...

Today’s Tips! All About Match

When writing that initial message on match don't over think it! There is no need to rewrite your profile or start sharing all of the things you have in common. It is boring and it is not a natural way to start a conversation. Imagine you are on an airplane and the person next to you looks cute and single. What might you say? Usually something quick. Likely you will ask them where they are headed and hope this leads to a bigger conversation. If they have a book you might ask about the book they are reading and see where that takes you. Think of online dating in the same way. Ask something light and friendly and generate an organic, fun, natural discussion. If they mention they love sushi ask them if they ever tried Siam Cuisine. If they state in their profile that they enjoy Netflix binging ask them if...

The Bottom Line on Who Pays

Men-If you ask her out you should pay. If you don’t know her well (met online) it is perfectly acceptable to meet for coffee or one drink. You are not expected to buy someone you don’t know a meal. It is appropriate in 2017 to have a first date be a coffee date. If a woman is offended by this I suggest you move on and see that you dodged a bullet. Ladies-You should always offer to pay your half. It is a gesture that shows him that you do not expect him to pay. It shows that you respect him and yourself enough to make the effort. When he declines your half of the money simply say thank you. Men-If you like her after the coffee date invite her to dinner and you need to pay for the dinner. You are in the courting stages and should be...

Clueless to Couple

Thankfully, an ex boyfriend saw how much of a mess I was in my dating life and gave Jaimy, The Date Doctor my phone number at a networking event. I had no idea who she was or what her job entailed when she called me. After agreeing to meet with her and discuss my past dating rituals, I knew Jaimy was introduced to me for a reason. She has the best advice at the best times, but I didn't always follow it as I should. She watched me make mistake after mistake with different guys, over and over. She never judged me and just coached me through it. Finally, I decided to trust Jaimy and begin following her rules. She has tried to guide me for months now and she was able to see that I was ready to do this right. Soon after she texted me saying she met THE guy...

Why I Want Nothing Valentines Day

Many years ago when I worked for the state I was in the lunch room with two co coworkers on Valentines Day. They were raving about the roses, jewelry and candy they received from a boyfriend they complained about the rest of the year. I was happy for them and joked about getting just a card (I still have the card). Within weeks they were both cheated on and dumped and I was engaged. I didn't care or need the the gifts because I knew how my boyfriend felt about me everyday. Being acknowledged on Valentines Day is sweet. Sure we all love a thoughtful gift. But remember that the size of the gift doesn't represent the love they feel. In fact I have found the opposite. Sometimes those big gift givers are overcompensating for many other things lacking in the relationship. There certainly are exceptions and we all know those...

5 Things Singles Should NEVER Say!

No matter how frustrated you are saying these 5 things out loud or in your head won't help you find love! 1. I give up-Well if you really give up I can't really help you. 2. My love life is hopeless-That is because you keep convincing yourself it is. 3. I am not meant to find love-The only people not meant to find love are those who don't want it. 4. All the good ones are taken-That ridiculous! 5. I shouldn't have to change-Happy, healthy people are always looking to change, grow and be better people. You don't have to change to please a partner. Change because you are striving to be your best. These thoughts will attract negative, miserable people into your life. Do you want to join the "pity me" club or find love! If you are trapped in negative thinking mode snap yourself out of it! If you need some help the Date Doctor...

How to Date Like a Maniac

Dating like a maniac means that you are dating to an extreme. Not acting like a lunatic while dating. It's about taking extreme measures to go on as many dates as you can for the rest of the month. The reason this is a great idea is because...