After the Speed Dating
You walk through the door of Murphy and Scarletti’s into the dimly lit bar area. You look to the left as Jaimy instructed and see the private room. You wonder so many things… anyone cute in there, will that guy pick me, did I wear the right thing, what the heck am I going to talk about…As all these thoughts are piling up Jaimy and her staff greet you with a smile, explain the ice breaker and boom you have begun a night of speed dating. Before you know it the bell is ringing every 5 minutes and the night is flying by. All of a sudden Laurie is collecting the date cards and the night is over. Wow 15 dates in less than 90 minutes. Seems like a world record. You get home and you made a match. Perhaps you selected a few singles and but only got one. Don’t whine and complain about that. It is simply terrific that you had a mutual attraction with someone that evening. Now do you wait for them to call, do you wonder if they had multiple matches, focus your energy on the match you didn’t get? No way! If you made a match shoot them an email! Something quick and friendly. Perhaps a follow up comment about a discussion you shared or a joke about the evening. Don’t wait! Perhaps they did get multiple matches? Let your email be the first one they see when they arrive home.
I know this tip works from personal experience. When I was on match.com nine long years ago I tried it myself. Every morning I viewed the newly posted match.com profiles and emailed them that very moment. I was the very first girl that emailed Erik just moments after he posted his picture. Although he was my 13th date, I was his very first! Nine years later we are still together! Happily married and raising our family. Sure there is a lot of rejection in internet dating and speed dating. But don’t be afraid to feel a little bit of rejection because it just brings you so much closer to finding that great relationship! I hope to see you at an event soon! Jaimy