Quite simply after 2 dates you are not required to provide a formal breakup! After 2 dates and no chemistry you just slip away. Sure the other person feels a bit sad, disappointed and rejected. But that is the world of dating. If she doesn’t ask just move on. A call or email from you will only give her a bit of false hope. If she however does send you an email and asks I would nicely say that she was a great girl just not a match for you and wish her the best! Ouch it will sting for a moment but she will be fine!

Have a great weekend.

Ok Mr. Stud, I hate to sound too harsh but I am speaking for all women when I respond to this… Don’t flatter yourself! I think girl #1 will be just fine without your date. The last thing any girl wants is a pity date. And your neighbor took this risk when she set you up. What are you going to do next, marry the girl to please your neighbor? Go out with the girl you have sparks with and enjoy every minute of it. Just please call girl #1 and let her know you need to cancel. A jerk would qualify as someone that just stood her up. Clearly you have too much character to do that or you wouldn’t be asking the question. Good luck! It sounds like you found what we are all looking for!
Jaimy

Dear Waiting…
That is a great question! First ask yourself what exactly you want. Do you want to casually date a guy once or a twice a week? Or do you want a relationship where you check in with each other everyday and become part of each others lives? My guess is that you wouldn’t be asking this question if you didn’t want the relationship. No more waiting! But if you find it hard to move on here is my suggestion… Tell him that he is a great guy and that you have really enjoyed getting to know him. However, at this point in your life you are looking for something a bit more serious. Explain that it seems like the 2 of you are in different places and wish him the best of luck. No drama, no argument just a clear message. If there is ever a chance that he is capable or interested in getting past is commitment issues than this is it. And if not than this conversation will just give you the closure you need and help you realize he was never getting there anyways. And you will be free to find a guy that can give you everything you deserve.

Stephanie 44 years old from Stamford CT

You’re funny Stephanie! I could say the same about my hilarious family. I remember the day I brought a boyfriend home and my mom pulled out the old congratulations sign from my college graduation and hung it on the door. Fortunately, my date found humor in this! I also remember waiting for a date to pick me up back in my college days. As he pulled in the driveway I said to my family, “quick act normal, pretend to make dinner”. My mom picked up the phone and when I said “what are you doing why are you on the phone?” She replied “I am pretending to make reservations”. Stephanie your family is a big part of who you are. Don’t be embarrassed for a minute, just laugh and be yourself. Just like I told Mike, if he is already into you than this won’t be a deal breaker! The right guy for you will find this entertaining and will fall in love with you and your family.

Tongue Tied Mike 43 Central, CT

Hi Mike, first let me say that I am so happy you used match.com as a venue for meeting girls and congratulations on having a successful date! Wow, you really like this girl or you wouldn’t even be worrying about that kiss. So that is a good sign. And not in a million years could this ruin a perfect date! Ok, if you actually bit the girls tongue off we might have a problem. But if she is already into you than she will be able to laugh about that kiss somewhere down the road. However, if she has already decided that you just weren’t for her than that kiss can make things worse. A more exaggerated story to laugh at with her friends. But Mike, you know that when we meet that special person and we just click… it takes a lot more than an awkward first kiss to ruin it. So keep on kissing.