Dating when your family is crazy

Feb 17, 2010

Stephanie writes…My family is a little crazy. You know that typical loud Jewish family. We are hilarious and I think my sister and I could have our own reality show. How soon do I bring a guy home to meet them? I don’t want to scare him away but as you can imagine my Yenta Mom is always kvetching to meet any date!

Stephanie 44 years old from Stamford CT

You’re funny Stephanie! I could say the same about my hilarious family. I remember the day I brought a boyfriend home and my mom pulled out the old congratulations sign from my college graduation and hung it on the door. Fortunately, my date found humor in this! I also remember waiting for a date to pick me up back in my college days. As he pulled in the driveway I said to my family, “quick act normal, pretend to make dinner”. My mom picked up the phone and when I said “what are you doing why are you on the phone?” She replied “I am pretending to make reservations”. Stephanie your family is a big part of who you are. Don’t be embarrassed for a minute, just laugh and be yourself. Just like I told Mike, if he is already into you than this won’t be a deal breaker! The right guy for you will find this entertaining and will fall in love with you and your family.

Tongue Tied Mike

Feb 17, 2010

My first question comes from Mike…
I met her on match.com and the first date was perfect! We connected, laughed and had a great time. Then it was time to say goodbye. I went in for the kiss and it was as awkward as you can imagine. My question is… Can a bad first kiss ruin a perfect first date.

Tongue Tied Mike 43 Central, CT

Hi Mike, first let me say that I am so happy you used match.com as a venue for meeting girls and congratulations on having a successful date! Wow, you really like this girl or you wouldn’t even be worrying about that kiss. So that is a good sign. And not in a million years could this ruin a perfect date! Ok, if you actually bit the girls tongue off we might have a problem. But if she is already into you than she will be able to laugh about that kiss somewhere down the road. However, if she has already decided that you just weren’t for her than that kiss can make things worse. A more exaggerated story to laugh at with her friends. But Mike, you know that when we meet that special person and we just click… it takes a lot more than an awkward first kiss to ruin it. So keep on kissing.

A dating tip from a fifth grader

Feb 10, 2010

I overheard a conversation between my fifth grade son and his little friend who happens to have a big crush on him! She asked Matthew, “Why are you always running away from me?” And Matthew replied quite simply “because you are always chasing me.”

The message here is that when you are too available, it can be as annoying to a 10 year old as it can be to a 40 year old. Quite simply don’t give up your interests, friends and hobbies because you might have an opportunity for a date with someone you are waiting to hear from. If they call and you are truly unavailable, they will call again if they are really interested. So don’t wait around! Enjoy being you and that someone will only learn they may need to call and make plans a little sooner.

If you like it then you should have put a ring on it.

Feb 2, 2010