Episode 54 – Men in nail polish

Dec 12, 2011

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The week we talk to a few callers and answer some questions from the Facebook page. One person asks if men should wear nail polish.

Episode 53 – Percentage of people that cheat

Dec 5, 2011

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We give some karma to people who donated to the last show.

Liza-He just ended our 4 month relationship w/out even a breakup. After a week of texting, calling and showing up at his house I have still had no contact. Now it has been 3 more weeks and I want some answers. Can I attempt to contact him again to get my answers? Don’t I deserve to know?

So I went on this date with this girl, and it was a complete flop. We just didn’t click, she knew it and I knew it. You can’t win them all… But anyway, after we both went our separate ways I sent her a text basically saying. I’m sorry things didn’t work out, I think you have a lot to offer, I thank you for your time and I wish you the best of luck. I was trying to be a gentleman, but does a response like that just rub salt in the wound.

Christin-Okay, I need some advice….If you are on Match.com, please take a look at my profile….”loveandpeace66″….I’ve been on Match for 2 months and sent out 75+ emails and winks, and I’ve received fewer than five responses (which were “thanks, but no thanks…). Is there anything in my profile that turns guys off? My pics? The content? Help!! I’m clueless as to why I’m being rejected so much!

Julie asks I seem to be stuck in this pattern with I chat w a guy for a week and he falls off the planet. Never even getting a first date. I read your book and loved it but still feel like I am just not getting it?

Contest winner

Question of the Week? Have you ever given, recieved or considered giving a gift that was a bit risque? For example…lingerie, sex toy, porn movie, etc…Would this spice things up and excite you or totally offend you? I know it depends on the circumstances but let’s hear what they are…

Ryan-just wondering what your thoughts are on open relationships?

Laurie-just wondering if there really is a good honest man out there in this world. it sure doesn’t seem like it to me!

Kim-Don’t you find the “almost” loves..the hardest ones to get over??..:(

Episode 52 – Pick Up Artists Revealed

Nov 28, 2011

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Call in from Tim. Tim is a Pick Up Artist and dispels some myths about Pick Up Artists.

Tips to married couples…100 day challenge?

Inez-my live in boyfriend does the laundry most of the time… there was laundry in the dryer so I took it out and folded it, when I was folding the clothes I noticed they were all his clothes. and there wasn’t any of his clothes left in the hamper. why do you think he did this??? The funny part is we had such a great weekend…we were not fighting. any thoughts? just a coincidence? Or maybe he feels he should only do his because I asked him to help with the bills recently? kinda upset about this

Pete asks…Wing(man/woman), does it help or hinder? and Why?

Susan-Wow what a turn off! I just talked to a guy for the first time and when he asked me right away what I was doing, I told him I was finishing putting up Christmas decorations. He answered very very sarcastic, oh that sounds fun. Ii asked him, why you don’t like christmas? He proceeded to go on and on about his ex and how he could never do anything right! I told him my phone was dying and I had to go. He then sent me a text saying “ouch” lol I will never talk to him again!

Ryan asks-how many ‘chances’ should we/do we give before we bail on the counter-part?

Question of the week…Ever go to a restaurant and have your date do or order something that really turned you off. Like a glass of milk with dinner, cheap tips, etc…

Ryan-Is it “taboo” to give your new girlfriend of two months a gift for Christmas that is still in your possession, that you were going to give your former girlfriend?

Quickest Ways to Ruin the Dinner Date!

Nov 26, 2011

The majority of early dates take place in a restaurant. And despite my constant advice about first dates being quick ice cream or coffee dates, many of you still choose that restaurant! I understand you are hopeful that there will be a connection and you want more time together. So go ahead pick your favorite restaurant and best of luck! Oh and remember if you don’t like your date and want to avoid telling them outright, just do one of the things on the list below and I can guarantee you they will never want to see you again either!

Here is my list! Feel free to add yours in the comments!

Top 10 things to turn your date off in a restaurant! 

1. Guys take the initiative on the first date to pick the restaurant! You can ask what food we prefer but don’t show up and say “where do you want to go?” Quite simply we will just want to go back home.
2. When you get to the restaurant please walk up to the hostess to request a table for two. And to the ladies that claim to be such strong independent women…just sit back and let him handle getting the table. You don’t want to come across too independent as it is a turn off. I don’t make the rules but it is what it is!
3. Taking your gum out of your mouth and setting it on your dinner plate is disgusting. And then putting it back in at the end of the meal makes it even worse! Totally unacceptable! Seriously this happened to me.
4. If you are going to a nice restaurant know the appropriate etiquette! I went on a date with a match.com guy and we ordered a bottle of wine. The waitress was showing him the label and he didn’t have a clue. He pulled the bottle from her hand and poured it himself. Very embarrassing for all of us.
5. Guys let your date order first. I once went on a date and the guy was so eager to get his order in that he didn’t even realize the waiter was completely looking at me and ready to take my order first when he cut in.
6. Don’t bring flowers to the restaurant. Yes we love to get flowers but it is simply embarrassing to have a big floral arrangement on the table. Especially if the table is small and it becomes a hazard to see one another.
7. Sometimes your meal gets screwed up but please don’t blame the waitress or waiter. Just relax and know that your food will come. Any unnecessary drama or rudeness will just turn your date off completely.
8. Name droppers are annoying. If you know the chef or the owner of the restaurant that is fine. But if you feel this burning desire to tell the waitress that you know them than go ahead. But just know that we aren’t impressed and kind of think you just might be trying to show off.
9. There is absolutely no reason to check your phone, text or respond to emails during the 60 minutes you are dining. Shut the thing off!  I know some of you have kids but I trust that if you are out on a date you have left your kids in good hands! And if an emergency should happen I think they will call 911 first! If you are that panicked about it then make a trip to the bathroom. You can check your phone at that time.
10. Again I don’t make the rules here but if you don’t offer to pay for that first dinner date then I can guarantee you she is getting the message loud and clear that you are not interested. This is why I strongly suggest making the first date a quick coffee or ice cream date. You can avoid dropping $60 on a girl that is not interested in anything more than a meal. After that first quick date you will know if the chemistry is there. And if she is worth it…take her to dinner and offer to pay!

Episode 51 – MILF Centerfold

Nov 21, 2011

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Cindy A asks “Am I ‘anti-woman’ if I just want to marry someone who will earn our living and I can do the traditional 1950s wife thing?

Brian posted this link http://yahoo.match.com/y/article.aspx?articleid=12765&TrackingID=526103&BannerID=901657 Erik have you ever done any of these??

Derek-There’s a attractive woman in my social circle. Been showing up at a weekly jam I participate in. Clearly showing interest. Here’s my dillema: I know her former boyfriend, know he had some questionable vices and nasty habits. Is it wrong for me to think she may be tainted somehow?

Why is a movie a bad idea for the first date?
R jeffries asks Where is the fine line between making concessions and simply acquiescing to the other person’s own needs?
Nicole asks-Is it me or is not responding to a text/email/call rude?

Ashleigh-Dating a guy for a year. He has some depression but we never really talk about it. He just gets in a bad place and ignores me for weeks at a time. barely calls me back and never makes time for me. I don’t want to get mad as I know he has stuff going on that could make it worse. But again he wants to keep it private.

Anonmyous-What is the best way to handle having matched w 2 girls that are friends?

Is there really a difference between online and offline dating? Can you be good at one and not the other?

Nicole-I have no chance of meeting anyone in my profession (elem. teacher) so I’ve stayed with Match for a while but lately haven’t had much luck. For those people who are on sites like Match or POF, do you think it’s worth coming off them for a while and then going back on or just staying on continuously until you hopefully meet someone long term?

Men who think women only want rich men are unwilling to figure out what the real reason is that women don’t want them! It’s not your wallet!